Self satisfaction.

that's very ture...i hardly read the earlier entries...still, at the time , it was cathartic...plus, i'm glad i wrote some things down that i would have otherwise forgotten...that was my main motivation in the first place...

oh, and what's up with the huge avatar? compensating?;)

I can't win. Any type of reminiscing gets me down, even the good memories.
It just makes me want to have them back again.

I even do it it watching my son grow up because it brings back memories of when I was a child,...which just gets me down.

The big avatar is in proportion to you less fortunate. ;)

Changed it. :D ^

I have some questions for the women.

Who's more shallow, men or women? I ask because, in my mind, most men are happy if a girl is vaguely interested, whereas most women won't even look at a man if he's wearing the wrong shoes. Are shoes that important?

Why will a woman consistently complain about meeting the "wrong type of guy" yet continue to go to the same places, chat up those same "wrong type of" guys etc?

Why do women try to change men they are dating, when they were obviously attracted to them in the first place? What sort of improvement are you looking for?

Do you all plan your weddings from the age of 3?

Do all women think a guy who talks to them is trying to get in their knickers?

When stating, "you should know", do you really think we have any idea what you're talking about?

Would you sleep with a man who was wearing nothing but socks?

The answer to all of those... we aren't all like that :p:

I'm so glad blokes are single minded. At least we make things easy for you, whereas chicks have to complicate things by being "individual".

Haha guys are so not all the same.

You have bad ones, and then ones that aren't so bad.

Shoes are not that important. Unless you're dating one of those fashion obsessed bimbos.
And I am a little shallow. I am extremely ticklish so clean shaven guys are preferred.

She's stupid. if Every guy you meet is the wrong guy and you've met evry guy at a bar or some frat party, then you're retarded for not going to a soccer game and meeting some of the hotties there.

If the woman you're dating is trying to change you, then she isn't happy with who you are and you should leave her for someone that will appreciate everything you are, as you are.

No. I don't plan on getting married. But if it does happen, I already have my playlist and know what song I'mw alking to down the aisle. (It's Closer by NIN)

You'll have to understand this from a female perspective. Some girls have the misfortune of having guys walk up to them with lame cheesy pick up lines and are only after what's int heir pants.. We all know that the first thing you know abuot a person is what they look like (unless you're blind). Eventually a woman is gonna get so fed up with having guys talk to her that even when a guy wants to know what time it is she'll say no and leave.
It's happened to me. I have become used to (although quite disturbed) by the fact that people find me attractive. Most of the strange guys that have walked up to me have only been trying to get in my pants.
And there was a time I thought that's what all guys that walked up to me wanted. And there have been times when a strange guy has walked up to me and asked me what time it was and not if he could spend the sometime to get to know me.

tune her out. eventually she'll get tired of talking.

I'd sleep with a man that was wearing a Phillies baseball cap if it meant that much to him or he looked that hot in it.

Peace

I can only speak for myself, no one else, but I keep a journal for a number of reasons. I don't write in it every day. I tried that, but it does get boring, especially when you are only writing for the sake of 'I have to write something in it every day.' I only write when I have thoughts I need to get out of my system, or feelings about a certain topic I feel strongly about.

Another reason is, I can look back and see where I was, spiritually, emotionally, mentally, at that time. Last summer, two winters ago, etc. I can see how I was, and whether or not I have grown or progressed. Also, if I see something from back then that was bothering me, that I'd forgotten about, I can maybe look at it more objectively, with less emotional involvement. Maybe my feelings have changed, maybe not. Maybe something that seemed a big deal is something I will shake my head now and say "What was I so riled up about?"

I understand everyone in this thread and their reasons for wanting/not wanting to keep a journal. I'm just sharing the reasons I do keep one.

As far as the dream one, I've been keeping that one for about 3 years. Same as with my regular journal, I don't write in it every day. One day, I will go through and read them, in the hopes of finding some mystery fiber that weaves through all of them. Some great clue as to where my true peace lies. Or, maybe I'm just weird. LOL.

It's called 'immaturity'

Degree of shallowness has nothing to do with a person's sex. It's a mental state. There are just as many women who simply want a 'hot guy with a cool car' as there are guys who want a 'hot girl with a nick rack' or whatever.

Speaking as someone who is old enough to have been through most stages of sexual discovery, I think I can safely say that the physical, surface attraction is 99% of the time, the first stage. It lasts from the moment of discovery, until mid to late 20's. Mind you, this span is shorter for some, longer for others. In extreme cases, some people never go through the physical attraction, while some never get past it.

After that, there's the nesting stage. You get tired of searching for Mr. or Mrs. Right, and you want someone to settle down with. This is a tricky stage, because most people think "Oh, man, I'm almost 30, I need to settle down", and end up being with someone they don't really know as a person, just as a spouse.

For the truly fortunate ones, they are friends with their partner. For the extremely truly fortuneate ones, they are friends with their partners long before they look deeper at each other and fall in love with that person. They have the strongest foundation there is to make any relationship work, friendship.

Who are you more honest with? Your friends, or your lovers?

If your lover was your friend first, they already know you, your bullsh*t and your lies. You have to be honest with them, because you've been their friend for a while, and know you better than anyone. The best kind of lover there is, is the one who knows the real you. Then you you know they love the real you.