My brother was bailed out of jail for ten grand and still hasn't fully appreciated how much my parents do for him. It's like he EXPECTS to be bailed out no matter what. Every car repair with him has also been paid for in full by my parents so he treats his car like sh*t. It's sad. For both ends.

I wonder what the underlying causes are for their behavior toward him. That's so excessive, so ridiculous.

Probably not wanting him to be in Passaic County Jail. Google that sh*t.

Passaic is no joke..

Parents are the biggest enablers almost always. They'd rather throw money at a futile cause and be miserable than abandon their shitty kid after countless "second chances". It has nothing to do with privilege, it's just blind love in most cases.

More like unconditional love.

More like stupid if you ask me. Blame yourself when they fail without you or enable them to dig themselves a deeper hole, and they always choose the latter.

I agree with this.

Parenting other people's kids is always way easier than parenting your own... I hope I'm never in Exo's parents' position, because I imagine it would be very difficult to walk the fine line between enabling and abandonment.

It's a decision that usually only has two losers.

God forbid some of you end up with a troubled child.

I can see how no parent would ever want their child to go to prison for any reason (a lot of sketchy and scary behavior happens behind bars, some of those things well beyond the scope of the actual punishment the inmates are meant to endure) but I'm not sure it does the accused any good to be left with the notion that their parents will always bail them out, and they don't have to live up to the mistakes they've made.

I don't know. It's not my place to judge. Applying basic psychology isn't necessarily always the answer.

My parents ended up with two of them, only to exacerbate the problems to the point where both of us are quite obviously damaged beyond repair, left mostly with the shame they instilled in us for being mentally unstable.