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**Exo** · 10-19-2015, 07:30 PM

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Originally Posted by ladyislingering

Come to think of it, that's true.

Privileged children are (generally) raised to believe that they don't have limits, that any consequences of their actions will be fixed by their parents, that they don't have to assume any responsibility for anything because they're so gosh darn special.

If I acted the way a lot of kids do nowadays when I was 16, my mother would have put me in a facility for troubled youths. Or told me to get the fuck out.

My brother was bailed out of jail for ten grand and still hasn't fully appreciated how much my parents do for him. It's like he EXPECTS to be bailed out no matter what. Every car repair with him has also been paid for in full by my parents so he treats his car like sh*t. It's sad. For both ends.

ladyislingering · 10-19-2015, 07:32 PM

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Originally Posted by Exo

My brother was bailed out of jail for ten grand and still hasn't fully appreciated how much my parents do for him. It's like he EXPECTS to be bailed out no matter what. Every car repair with him has also been paid for in full by my parents so he treats his car like sh*t. It's sad. For both ends.

I wonder what the underlying causes are for their behavior toward him. That's so excessive, so ridiculous.

**Exo** · 10-19-2015, 07:34 PM

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Originally Posted by ladyislingering

I wonder what the underlying causes are for their behavior toward him. That's so excessive, so ridiculous.

Probably not wanting him to be in Passaic County Jail. Google that sh*t.

DwnWthVwls · 10-19-2015, 07:37 PM

Passaic is no joke..

Parents are the biggest enablers almost always. They'd rather throw money at a futile cause and be miserable than abandon their shitty kid after countless "second chances". It has nothing to do with privilege, it's just blind love in most cases.

**Exo** · 10-19-2015, 07:39 PM

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Originally Posted by DwnWthVwls

Passaic is no joke..

Parents are the biggest enablers almost always. They'd rather throw money at a futile cause and be miserable than abandon their shitty kid after countless "second chances". It has nothing to do with privilege, it's just blind love in most cases.

More like unconditional love.

DwnWthVwls · 10-19-2015, 07:41 PM

More like stupid if you ask me. Blame yourself when they fail without you or enable them to dig themselves a deeper hole, and they always choose the latter.

~~ChelseaDagger~~ · 10-19-2015, 07:43 PM

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Originally Posted by DwnWthVwls

Passaic is no joke..

Parents are the biggest enablers almost always. They'd rather throw money at a futile cause and be miserable than abandon their shitty kid after countless "second chances". It has nothing to do with privilege, it's just blind love in most cases.

I agree with this.

Parenting other people's kids is always way easier than parenting your own... I hope I'm never in Exo's parents' position, because I imagine it would be very difficult to walk the fine line between enabling and abandonment.

**Exo** · 10-19-2015, 07:54 PM

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Originally Posted by ChelseaDagger

I agree with this.

Parenting other people's kids is always way easier than parenting your own... I hope I'm never in Exo's parents' position, because I imagine it would be very difficult to walk the fine line between enabling and abandonment.

It's a decision that usually only has two losers.

Chula Vista · 10-19-2015, 08:09 PM

God forbid some of you end up with a troubled child.

ladyislingering · 10-19-2015, 08:16 PM

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Originally Posted by Exo

More like unconditional love.

I can see how no parent would ever want their child to go to prison for any reason (a lot of sketchy and scary behavior happens behind bars, some of those things well beyond the scope of the actual punishment the inmates are meant to endure) but I'm not sure it does the accused any good to be left with the notion that their parents will always bail them out, and they don't have to live up to the mistakes they've made.

I don't know. It's not my place to judge. Applying basic psychology isn't necessarily always the answer.

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Originally Posted by Chula Vista

God forbid some of you end up with a troubled child.

My parents ended up with two of them, only to exacerbate the problems to the point where both of us are quite obviously damaged beyond repair, left mostly with the shame they instilled in us for being mentally unstable.

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