Is this site more important than the ones you love?

slappyjenkins · 05-19-2013, 07:17 PM

Hi everyone,

**Goofle** · 05-19-2013, 07:22 PM

Less important than my mum, dad and sister. But more important than anyone else. Family wise at least.

Paedantic Basterd · 05-19-2013, 07:23 PM

Is brushing your teeth more important, if you do that first? Checking your email? Turning on the TV?

No. These are things we do out of habit. They're inconsequential, reflexive, irrelevant things. The day my grandma died, I turned on the television for a week and disappeared in it. Doesn't mean I loved my mother any less.

She sounds like the sort of girl who would read your text messages.

**Goofle** · 05-19-2013, 07:29 PM

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Originally Posted by Pedestrian

Is brushing your teeth more important, if you do that first? Checking your email? Turning on the TV?

No. These are things we do out of habit. They're inconsequential, reflexive, irrelevant things. The day my grandma died, I turned on the television for a week and disappeared in it. Doesn't mean I loved my mother any less.

She sounds like the sort of girl who would read your text messages.

I don't mean to offend, but I can't quite tell what side of the fence you are on based on that.

Personally, many members of my family mean very little to me. This community may be essentially just a group of randoms, but I feel more of a connection to the general membership than those of my family.

Justthefacts · 05-19-2013, 10:24 PM

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Originally Posted by Goofle11

I don't mean to offend, but I can't quite tell what side of the fence you are on based on that.

Personally, many members of my family mean very little to me. This community may be essentially just a group of randoms, but I feel more of a connection to the general membership than those of my family.

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~~Cuthbert~~ · 05-20-2013, 08:19 AM

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Originally Posted by Goofle11

Personally, many members of my family mean very little to me. This community may be essentially just a group of randoms, but I feel more of a connection to the general membership than those of my family.

Yeah I agree with this statement, especially when you've been frequenting the same forum for years.

Although actually saying an internet forum means more to you than real life family members seems a bit tight.

Paedantic Basterd · 05-19-2013, 07:34 PM

I don't have a very strong sense of family either, but I don't necessarily have a comparably strong sense of community on a website.

I'm on the side of the fence that she shouldn't get worked up, because she's interpreting the situation in a way that's absurd, regardless of whether or not he does feel a strong bond with others on the internet or not.

I've been in both situations, having addictive bonds and having little attachment, and it wasn't the case in either place that it meant I didn't care for my family or significant other.

**Goofle** · 05-19-2013, 07:39 PM

Ahh, that makes more sense. I generally agree as well.

Burning Down · 05-19-2013, 07:41 PM

No, people that I love in real life are more important to me than this site. However I've developed friendships with people on this site and other forums, and although they're long distance, they are still significant.

There were 3 deaths in the family over the last 5 years and I didn't shed a tear at their funerals. Nothing affected me and I just went about my daily business like nothing happened. My mom thought that was inappropriate but I didn't care. Still don't.

Trollheart · 05-20-2013, 05:25 AM

Leaving aside for a moment the issue of the father's anniversary (I'll give you my opinion on that if you want it) but even that aside, I have never heard such a stupid assertation in my life. How can ANY site be more important than the ones you love? This is diversion, entertainment, a place to kick back and maybe offer or take advice or enjoy doing what you do, but if your loved ones need you there's a logout button and a shutoff key on your computer --- use it!

I love this site, but if my sister or any family member I get on with needed me, this would be put to one side. It's only a website, a forum, a thing. You need to prioritise. There's nothing as important as the people you love. They won't always be here, you know. What would you rather say, that you spent more time idly talking online with people you have never met in person or were there for the people who needed you?

If I've read the intent of the question wrong I apologise, but I can't see any way other than how I've read it.

Like Lister said in "Red Dwarf": they're just things. They don't matter. People matter.

05-19-2013, 07:17 PM	#1 (permalink)
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05-20-2013, 05:25 AM	#10 (permalink)
Trollheart Born to be mild Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: 404 Not Found Posts: 26,996	Leaving aside for a moment the issue of the father's anniversary (I'll give you my opinion on that if you want it) but even that aside, I have never heard such a stupid assertation in my life. How can ANY site be more important than the ones you love? This is diversion, entertainment, a place to kick back and maybe offer or take advice or enjoy doing what you do, but if your loved ones need you there's a logout button and a shutoff key on your computer --- use it! I love this site, but if my sister or any family member I get on with needed me, this would be put to one side. It's only a website, a forum, a thing. You need to prioritise. There's nothing as important as the people you love. They won't always be here, you know. What would you rather say, that you spent more time idly talking online with people you have never met in person or were there for the people who needed you? If I've read the intent of the question wrong I apologise, but I can't see any way other than how I've read it. Like Lister said in "Red Dwarf": they're just things. They don't matter. People matter. __________________ Trollheart: Signature-free since April 2018

05-19-2013, 07:23 PM	#3 (permalink)
Paedantic Basterd Music Addict Join Date: Sep 2010 Posts: 5,184	Is brushing your teeth more important, if you do that first? Checking your email? Turning on the TV? No. These are things we do out of habit. They're inconsequential, reflexive, irrelevant things. The day my grandma died, I turned on the television for a week and disappeared in it. Doesn't mean I loved my mother any less. She sounds like the sort of girl who would read your text messages.

05-19-2013, 07:34 PM	#7 (permalink)
Paedantic Basterd Music Addict Join Date: Sep 2010 Posts: 5,184	I don't have a very strong sense of family either, but I don't necessarily have a comparably strong sense of community on a website. I'm on the side of the fence that she shouldn't get worked up, because she's interpreting the situation in a way that's absurd, regardless of whether or not he does feel a strong bond with others on the internet or not. I've been in both situations, having addictive bonds and having little attachment, and it wasn't the case in either place that it meant I didn't care for my family or significant other.

05-19-2013, 07:41 PM	#9 (permalink)
Burning Down The Music Guru. Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Beyond the Wall Posts: 4,858	No, people that I love in real life are more important to me than this site. However I've developed friendships with people on this site and other forums, and although they're long distance, they are still significant. There were 3 deaths in the family over the last 5 years and I didn't shed a tear at their funerals. Nothing affected me and I just went about my daily business like nothing happened. My mom thought that was inappropriate but I didn't care. Still don't.