Solitude
 

So, yeah, solitude. Do you like being on your own? Do you dislike it it? Do you hate it even?

Do you regard it as the ultimate freedom, a place where no mask is needed - a place where your face can display its true expression, do you feel closer to God or Nature or consciousness when you're on your own, does it make you feel more creative, more content, more at ease, is it a place of solace, a place to forget the turmoil of the world and concentrate on the soul?

Or do you regard it as an empty place. Does it make you feel umcomfortable or restless, does it wear you out, does it propogate thoughts you'd rather not explore, does it make you depressed, do you think too much solitude can corrode one's character?

I love solitude personally. But I'm fascinated by the way different people regard it, how for some it is the ultimate fantasy and for others a nightmare, how some willingly become hermits and how in prison solitude confinement is regarded as the ultimate punishment.

Solitude is the most important thing to me, when I can't have it I don't feel in control of my life and it irritates me to the point of meanness

When I lived with my ex, I wasn't allowed any and it drove me insane because he constantly wanted attention and I couldn't have any Hermione time

ugggh

Solitude can be great, particularly if you're not a naturally social or egregious person. But of course it can also be an excuse to hide away, not participate, not get involved with the world. Personally, I've always been a pretty solitary person (Oh no, Trollheart! Really?) :rofl: but kind of more from choice than anything. I'd myuch rather be writing in my room than spending a night at the pub, and I would always make excuses to avoid parties, get-togethers etc. One thing about being on your own is that you don't have to put on a show for anyone. Ever made that weak grin when people ask are you ok for a drink, enjoying the party etc? I hate that. I don't like hypocrisy and so for me to go to a party I know I'll hate/endure/can't wait to leave is a form of hypocisy, because you can't SAY you hate it or leave too early; you have to pretend you're enjoying yourself.

Now sometimes that's necessary: if you're supporting someone, it's a celebration of something they've done or maybe something more sombre like a wake or funeral, where your presence is an anchoring one. But in general yes, I prefer to be alone. I have my best thoughts and do my best work when alone, although to be fair these days I don't have much of a choice due to my home circumstances. But I was always a solitary person. Too much being alone of course is intrinsically bad for you and can make you withdrawn, shy and awkward, but I've never gone that deep. I can still mix in social company, I just don't choose to if I have a choice.

I used to hate solitude. Not the solitude itself, but I thought I was supposed to want to be more social. I wanted to go to parties just cause I didn't want to be the kind of person who can't go to parties. Then I got tired of being that kind of person. It's exhausting, unfulfilling, and makes you a more boring person.

I still love hanging out, drinking till I pass out, going out to a bar, etc, but usually with a very small group of people I am comfortable with. But these days I am much more happy to spend all of the time by myself that I used to anyway. It's comforting to sit by yourself with nothing much to do but bask the in silence.

I love it. Nothing makes me relax more than watching a movie in bed with some snacks. When my boyfriend was living with me I managed to cope being with him all the time but I definitely realised afterward that I needed some space.

I've always been the kind of person who enjoys winding down alone. I'm a really full on person socially so when the day is over I need some me time to cope. I do love chatting on the internet though, that's a kind of socialising that I will do even though I'm winding down.

Nothing better than leaving your place in the morning and then getting back home and finding it just as you left it... nothing better than some scrumptious pizza and ice cream on your own, with some loud music or Simpsons episode around. Then some riveting film, and to the bed afterwards, with the radio on. Solitude is flawless.

:laughing: egregious


Solitude is Beautiful

I like having my own personal time (listening to music, playing music, watching the occasional movie, day dreaming), but I've lately been spending way too much time in total solitude. I've been kind of lonely, and it's getting to me.

When I hear solitude, I think of extremely long periods of isolation not just some personal me time like most of you are talking about.

Being an introvert, I do love my personal time and I always feel like I have something to do and don't get bored. I sometimes wish there were more hours in the day so I could gets things finished that I need to do in references to my hobbies and things I really enjoy.

Going into solitude though where it is extended periods of no social contact. I don't feel like that's healthy for anyone. It will eventually send you into a depressed state. Well it does for me. I don't know about you others.

I'm just wondering why you're laughing? At the possibility I could be a social butterfly or stand out in any way? Don't care, not bothered, just curious...