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Fair enough. Easier said than done. "You must do what you think is right, of course." Compassion is a good start. Maybe if you go up to her, talk to her, ask her if you can help out with anything (within your means), that act of compassion may open the door to something.
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I'm on your side Ki. LiL made her bed.
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her: How are you? Me: Go **** yourself Her: Oh come on. I want to talk. I miss you Me: Yeah, well I miss your cunt. that's it. I don't concern myself with her because my life is in tatters that I don't need to be rekindling the past to only realize how much I miss her. Your life isn't in the best situation pal. Instead of thinking about her, you need to think about how you're going to get on your feet. |
Just thought of something else, Ki. Moving would solve some of your immediate problems. Do you have the means to move?
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I'm a big proponent of "if you don't put yourself first, nobody else will". There comes a time when you cannot afford to continue to care about the plights of the people who hurt you, because they certainly do not care about yours. It takes more emotional fortitude to "return to normal" with a person who has harmed you than can be expected of anybody. I am certainly not strong enough. If you need to cut and run, you do it.
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Does LiL have your virginity?
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That explains a lot. You bonded your soul to hers, and now it's bleeding inside from being ripped away.
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Compassion for an ex-lover who's life is in shambles is perfectly understandable and natural, but helping a wounded tiger can easily end up with you mauled to death. |
Batlord, I did not know you possessed such wisdom. This is a compliment, not a scathing critique.
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I wasn't meaning to be dick. It's just that Ki has been a whiny pussy, we all have **** we are going through, he's constantly whining. So no, having emotions doesn't make you the pussy. It's how you portray them.
Edit: I mean that in the nicest way possible. We all have moments when we are whiny pussies. |
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And to be perfectly honest I think compassion for an addict who isn't seeking out help on their own might very well have the opposite effect, as now that you're making explicit to them that their behavior is NOT normal, and in fact is pitiable, it will only widen the gulf between them and non-addict society. If you were having money troubles and I just walked up to you and handed you a hundred dollars unsolicited for you to pay your rent, would it make you feel better or worse? |
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Addiction is a process that is far more complicated than this discussion can allow for. I whole-heartedly advocate for harm reduction as an approach, but there are definitely elements of personal responsibility and personal safety that affect the success of the solution. You can't change people for them. Nobody but you will put you first.
But addiction is a pathological misappropriation of the brain's prioritization circuits and socially, we make it very hard for people to seek, obtain, and maintain the help they need. The current strategies fail because they're not tailored to the individual's needs in most cases, and if they aren't, that person is not going to stick with the plan. |
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If you'd like, I can say **** it and let it effect me outside of here, but I'm in a bad place, and company is better than none. |
woke up with a lot of anxiety, then got a text with bad news. decided to go waling because it was sunny outside.
then i went to a movie but i didnt finish the movie now im listening to some asmr videos then im going to bed |
Whaling?
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I had a time when I was a raging pussy like that, and I was called out on it. Those people I don't think are dicks for treating me like the whiny bitch I was being. They are just calling a spade a spade. Life never got better, I just learned to stop being a whiny pussy. It is what it is. Then again, I was much more aggressive and a bigger ass than Ki is. Personally, I appreciate the honesty and some those people that called me out for being a raging **** were the first ones to offer condolences or a hand when something fowl happens. Also, how are people going to lay in on me for calling him a whiny pussy because he's going through a 'rough time' when he was going off on somebody with mental illness the same way? I offered him the option to PM me **** if he needs to talk when he went of on that tantrum about killing himself in the box below. He has not ever taken advantage of it. Instead he whines in here. Why is that? |
On the topic of addiction, I've had to watch my older brother become a "living on the street heroin addict and dealer" kind of person, so forgive me if my current situation hits me pretty hard. Most people would never deal with one addict in their life, let alone i'm dealing with coping with 2. I know this doesn't make a difference, but maybe it'll help realize where I'm coming from.
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And yes, I fully realize the irony of me telling you this. |
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