Why does it happen so often?

Was told on Leftbook today that I'm a bad feminist for "defending cheaters" when I bitched someone out for doxxing a supposedly married stranger who appeared to be seeking side action on tindr. It turned out to be a catfish in the end but I told OP that's it's none of their business what this Chad was doing and unless she knew the person or people involved her contacting the wife or taking any action was weird monogamist vigilantism and totally overstepping.

So what do you think MB? When is it appropriate to contact a spouse or partner of a cheater? Do you agree with me that unless the cheater or person being cheated on is a close friend or relative it's not your business at all or do you think that anyone being cheated on deserves to know?

Outing a cheater should only be done under the close supervision of Joey Greco.

I feel like if they're acquainted with the person being cheated on it's okay. Doing it a stranger is very over the line. It also depends on the type of doxxing. Privately telling the other partner is fine, doxxing in a public forum is entirely unacceptable and if you participate in that you are a rather large piece of ****.

I'm on the mind your own business side. I take that to heart even if it is someone you are close to or a relative. Just don't get involved. I'm not in a romantic relationship with the person so it isn't my place to get involved. I personally would rather find out on my own than from a third party.

There's a thousand shades of gray when it comes to cheating. Absolutely no easy answers. None. Can't be summed up with a simple quip. There are so many circumstances that can be involved. All three parties play a role. And the roles are completely different in every single individual instance.

If you know the person being cheated on (friend, family), you should tell them. That's my opinion. The wronged party has a right to know.

Being cheated on sucks but sometimes they had it coming. While somebody else had it cumming ooooohhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh!

Edit: Nah, but really, what you said is much more honest than what most of society is willing to accept.

I'm sure there are shades of grey to the cheater. There's no shades for the cheated.

What if they beat the **** out of the cheater all the time and the cheater was seeking some kind of safety or refuge in more loving arms but was too scared of being physically abused to break up plus they have a family with the abusive cheated?

Yeah.