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The Batlord · 03-01-2016, 02:33 PM

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Originally Posted by Paul Smeenus

I lived in Bamberg, West Germany (in 1978), I gave a Bamberger Hofbrau to a guy that was painting the barracks, and he had to set the beer on the steam-heat radiator lest the ice-cold beer "made him sick". With full recognition that good beer is very drinkable at room temp

Is that some kind of sex thing?

Paul Smeenus · 03-01-2016, 02:41 PM

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Originally Posted by Tristan Geoff

I thought you said nobody's been anyplace?

Correct, I just proved it

Paul Smeenus · 03-01-2016, 02:43 PM

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Originally Posted by The Batlord

Is that some kind of sex thing?

It couldn't be if *I* had it.

The Batlord · 03-01-2016, 03:30 PM

The asterisks are terrifying.

Chula Vista · 03-01-2016, 04:02 PM

~~ChelseaDagger~~ · 03-01-2016, 04:06 PM

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Originally Posted by Chula Vista

The way my day has been going, I might need to bum one of those, dude.

GuD · 03-04-2016, 03:38 PM

Fancy 40s? The gall.

Pet_Sounds · 03-04-2016, 10:37 PM

Life advice needed:

So I have this friend--quite possibly the best I've ever made. We've been tight as you can get for just over a year now. She recently started high school, and she's put soooo much pressure on herself to succeed in everything (honours classes, multiple APs, the works), plus all the extra-curricular stuff she's involved in, that it's completely taken over her life. That's cool--it's what she wants to do. But we can't even have a decent conversation without it being hijacked by a discussion about her grades, or her homework schedule, or whatever. She's constantly preoccupied and complaining about the stress, which is completely self-inflicted and would be easy to relieve if she wanted.

It's gotten to the point where it's stressing me out, because we have had an amazing relationship up to this point, but now it feels like I'm just a dumping ground for her stress. Our conversations are more anxiety-inducing than fun these days, to the point where we're often bickering.

What the hell do I do? I can't just keep doing what I'm doing--it's too hard on me. I don't want to lose her friendship, but honestly, I feel like not talking at all would be better than the constant stress. Am I being a dick?

WWWP · 03-04-2016, 11:32 PM

What do you think she would do if the situation were reversed? How would you want someone to approach you about it if you were in her shoes?

Those are the questions I ask myself when I find myself in predicaments like yours.

Chula Vista · 03-04-2016, 11:44 PM

Pet, just be straight and tell her exactly what you just told us. Maybe soften it up a bit. Let her know that you want your time together to be a stress reliever for her and that she needs the occasional break from the rat race she's created for herself.

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GuD Dude... What? Join Date: Oct 2013 Posts: 1,322	Fancy 40s? The gall. __________________ I spit bullets in my feet Every time I speak So I write instead And still people want me dead ~msc

03-04-2016, 10:37 PM	#36298 (permalink)
Pet_Sounds Remember the underscore Join Date: Feb 2014 Location: The other side Posts: 2,489	Life advice needed: So I have this friend--quite possibly the best I've ever made. We've been tight as you can get for just over a year now. She recently started high school, and she's put soooo much pressure on herself to succeed in everything (honours classes, multiple APs, the works), plus all the extra-curricular stuff she's involved in, that it's completely taken over her life. That's cool--it's what she wants to do. But we can't even have a decent conversation without it being hijacked by a discussion about her grades, or her homework schedule, or whatever. She's constantly preoccupied and complaining about the stress, which is completely self-inflicted and would be easy to relieve if she wanted. It's gotten to the point where it's stressing me out, because we have had an amazing relationship up to this point, but now it feels like I'm just a dumping ground for her stress. Our conversations are more anxiety-inducing than fun these days, to the point where we're often bickering. What the hell do I do? I can't just keep doing what I'm doing--it's too hard on me. I don't want to lose her friendship, but honestly, I feel like not talking at all would be better than the constant stress. Am I being a dick? __________________ Everybody's dying just to get the disease

03-04-2016, 11:44 PM	#36300 (permalink)
Chula Vista Toasted Poster Join Date: Oct 2014 Location: SoCal by way of Boston Posts: 11,332	Pet, just be straight and tell her exactly what you just told us. Maybe soften it up a bit. Let her know that you want your time together to be a stress reliever for her and that she needs the occasional break from the rat race she's created for herself. __________________ “The fact that we live at the bottom of a deep gravity well, on the surface of a gas covered planet going around a nuclear fireball 90 million miles away and think this to be normal is obviously some indication of how skewed our perspective tends to be.”