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As long as I've been alive, I've never had a desire to be around children. I've never wanted one of my own, and I've never been able to find any reason why it would be a logical decision for me (or anyone).
Usually when people find out about this, they're aghast. They're so offended by a woman in charge of her body, making her own decisions about what she wants or doesn't want to do with it. They can't believe what they're hearing. I get a lot of hate for my lifestyle, and it surprises me. The love of my life has the same beliefs I do about the childfree life: it's fabulous, rewarding, and what we'll keep on doing forever. Neither of us want children, and here's why I believe a lot of people could benefit from swearing off the social pressure of having children.
Think about it: why do people have children? Most of the time it's because that's what they think they're "supposed to do". People follow this ridiculous recipe for the "perfect" life, and they lose themselves in it.
First I'll discuss the things that we enjoy as a childfree couple, then I'll let you in on my personal freedoms and pleasures that would be robbed from me if I made the mistake of having a child.
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I don't hate or look down on people who have children if they genuinely love them and are able to take care of them to the best of their ability. I just don't want to be one of them.
As a childfree couple, we are able to:
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Buy nice things for each other, and fill our apartment with nice things without having to worry about child-proofing.
Sleep in on our days off, sleep early, sleep late. Sleep whenever it's convenient. God, we love our sleep. The only thing either of us will wake up for in the middle of the night is a long piss, maximum of a minute or two, and we're back to sleep. Can't do that with screaming gremlins.
Save a ton of money on everything because we don't have to buy things for children. When we get our cats, it'll still be easy. Cat food is less than 75 cents per can, and you can buy kibble in giant bags. It's like giving up a weekly Starbucks run. It's nothin'. And cat litter is infinitely cheaper than baby diapers or any other ridiculous thing those smelly ingrates require.
Uninterrupted sex. And I have a nice figure that will never be destroyed by childbearing. I'll never have a cavernous vagina, or a flabby body for the vain hope of letting forth my genetics, creating a human that will hate me when they're 12. Fuck that!
Dual income, and we don't have to worry about planning our days around kids. We can both work as much as we please, spend our days off however we want, and enjoy ourselves.
Minimal chores, and the grossest it gets is a mildly dirty toilet. No diaper changing, no sponging up projectile vomit (at least when cats vomit, it doesn't get everywhere), no dirty face to wipe off, no food or boogers or poop smeared on walls. We only have to take out the trash once a week.
Endless time to surf the internet or relax together however we please.
There are many more that I'm possibly forgetting, but our life is truly beautiful because we don't have any kids, and never will.
Some of the little things I enjoy as a child-free woman:
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Taking as much time as I like to put on make-up, fix my hair, choose the right outfit, etc. I don't have to worry about keeping an eye on a child, or dressing a child. I can take my time and work on myself.
My record collection, and the fact that I can leave my phonograph unattended and not have to worry about some nasty little brat ruining the record or the machine.
I can maintain ass-length hair and not have it pulled or messed by a child.
I can have dozens of candles all around the apartment. It's much easier to cat-proof than to child-proof your candle burning zones. Cats don't have thumbs.
I can devote all of my attention to the one I love. He'll never be neglected in any way (as I'm sure many fathers are - mom doesn't have time for baby and dad).
I don't need to buy health insurance. I don't have it, and I don't feel I need it. If I had a kid, I'd have to pay for all of that shit. No thanks.
And that's just the beginning of how rewarding it is to be child-free.
Now for the poll: do you see a necessity in breeding?
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sounds like youre tryin to justify the decision to yourself
Usually when people find out about this, they're aghast. They're so offended by a woman in charge of her body,
thats really the first think you think of?? lol so absurd.
anyway like i said somewhere else, the wrong ppl are havin kids. uneducated losers are havin the most children. then their children do the same. so theres no necessity in breeding. if there was a possible way itd be great to sterilize these ppl.
my theory is these ppl have kids more quickly and more often because they have little else in their life. kids also probably keep marriages more together. i plan to have a boy someday.
it's pretty incredible that women are capable of making another human; that's pretty badass and scientific and whatnot. (but it's not for everyone.)
would it improve your life?
would it be worth it?
Well bb not just women remember :P
I think it would, I really think I'll make a great mother and I'll pass on my sensibilities and ideas on to a little person who will hopefully grow up to be as kind, patient and compassionate as their mummy. If they're not just like me I won't be mad though, I'll at least know that I put something in this world that was raised to be accepting of others.
I'm an antinatalist. I don't think life is a miracle. I think people who want to be parents should make adoption their first choice. I also think the world would be better off without humans, but I won't drag you down with all that hogwash.
This is how I think and how I live mine. However, while a proponent of this philosophy I am not a prophet. I would never tell another person how to live their life.
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sounds like youre tryin to justify the decision to yourself
Usually when people find out about this, they're aghast. They're so offended by a woman in charge of her body,
thats really the first think you think of?? lol so absurd.
anyway like i said somewhere else, the wrong ppl are havin kids. uneducated losers are havin the most children. then their children do the same. so theres no necessity in breeding. if there was a possible way itd be great to sterilize these ppl.
my theory is these ppl have kids more quickly and more often because they have little else in their life. kids also probably keep marriages more together. i plan to have a boy someday.
I don't need to justify my decision not to have children, any more than a woman needs to justify her choice to have them. I just get a lot of really bizarre reactions, and they're often hateful. Like, heaven forbid, a young woman knows what she wants to do with herself.
I agree with you on one note: too many idiots are having kids.
Not too sure on whether kids would strengthen a marriage (I recall a recent study showing that they just make things worse, but wouldn't know where to find the article) but I do know that they're the ones that suffer if a marriage is unfit, or if their parents are divorcing. There's a lot of trauma to be had by a child birthed by people who don't love each other.
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Well bb not just women remember :P
I think it would, I really think I'll make a great mother and I'll pass on my sensibilities and ideas on to a little person who will hopefully grow up to be as kind, patient and compassionate as their mummy. If they're not just like me I won't be mad though, I'll at least know that I put something in this world that was raised to be accepting of others.
well, yeah, dudes have a place in it, but they don't have a uterus.
motherhood would fit you well, because you have the best interest of a child in mind. you're the difference between a parent and a breeder, and that's great. too many people are simple breeders, having kids only for the sake of doing what they think they should be doing with their lives, rather than being parents and actually raising children with love and good intentions.
I'm an antinatalist. I don't think life is a miracle. I think people who want to be parents should make adoption their first choice. I also think the world would be better off without humans, but I won't drag you down with all that hogwash.
This is how I think and how I live mine. However, while a proponent of this philosophy I am not a prophet. I would never tell another person how to live their life.
I agree. Think of all the children in this world who were abandoned, or taken from abuse or poverty, living in shelters waiting for someone to love them. And then there's people who just pop 'em out like crazy. We need to take care of those who can't take care of themselves before we make more of them, seriously. If I wanted kids, that would be my first choice. (That's why we're adopting cats from the shelter - they need parents or they will die alone.)
Humans are slowly destroying the planet. (But that's really a whole different topic.) I honestly dislike most people I meet, as they seem to have heads full of goddamn rocks.
And then there's the cool people with their well-behaved children. You go, cool people who actually wanted children and didn't just have them because society told you to. (And surprisingly, those people are usually the ones who are the least hateful toward the child-free!)
No desire to have kids. Not currently anyway. But who knows, people change. Also, I'm not sure I'd make a very good father. All those rules to set out. Don't like rules.
No desire to have kids. Not currently anyway. But who knows, people change. Also, I'm not sure I'd make a very good father. All those rules to set out. Don't like rules.
It took me almost quarter of a goddamn century to figure out my own rules; I couldn't imagine having to lay them out for a kid.
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