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Originally Posted by MoonlitSunshine
Hm. Interesting. I understand that you were just flirting, btw - I've only spent two months of the last 5 years single (two serious relationships) but in the current one, we live in different countries and also have the same attitude towards flirting, so it's allowed within the relationship so long as it's always playful :P We're both fairly big flirts, so we figured so long as we're in control and it stops before anyone gets any ideas, it's harmless!
Also understanding the cialis remark being a joke, however it'd be close enough to a jab defined as "Well Harsh" over here, basically meaning that you've overstepped the boundaries of a joke and that the subject of the jab is justified in taking the offended "and what exactly do you mean by that?" approach, and making you out to be the bad guy in the situation. Especially if he was only in his 50s, chances are he has plenty of life left, and would have shrugged something like that off like nothing :P
However, I guess a lot of it comes down to having a style that suits your physical attributes and personality. I'm not a big guy: I have an athletic shape, but it's a lean one, and I'm far better at talking than I am at fighting! So for me, the best approach is to play to my advantage and keep the whole thing purely verbal. If I'm calm, controlled, and good natured, I can blow off anyone acting aggressive as going over the top and overreacting, and I can beat anyone playing the same game. Taking an aggressive stance means, while it may not lead to actualy physical blows, physical posturing is certainly more important, and a bigger guy would always win against me in a looming competition, or even just in looking more aggressive, and if I went aggressive and someone undercut me in the way I normally would react, I'd be caught effectively high and dry.
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If he got offended by my remark , I would clearly state that I'm joking an apologize right on the spot. She would have to respect me for owning up to my poor joke if he got offended.
I haven't really been in a serious fight all of my life. I'm a very smooth talker and usually talk my way out of situations even though I don't use the best tactics all the time. I do tend to joke a lot but I also know how to defuse a situation if I see it going down the wrong road. I'm a short stocky guy like I could be a linebacker or something but I don't know how I would fare in a fight. I know some judo but I haven't had a sparring partner in years so I may be rusty. Plus if it did turn into something physical. I wouldn't even try to win that fight if I was trying to impress the girl.
Some girls would rather you not be violent/show violent tendencies so I would lose on purpose. When I come out of it wounded/beaten up a bit. She will come to my aid and help me up and we will walk away from the situation. I will turn around and wink at the loser that beat me up because I'm leaving with the girl and he didn't see what happened.
Of course there are some girls that are on the other side of the spectrum and get turned on by a guy that can defend himself. They feel like if he can defend himself then he can defend me if something goes down and it turns into an issue of you being her protector and she gets turned on by that.