Okay, fine: everyone laugh at me. I'm not for internet censorship, not by a long way, but I think we at least need to take the step of waiting till we at least know someone (and have an idea --- whether it's correct or not --- of their basic age) before we hit them with overtly sexual comments, that aren't even qualified by a smilie, and COULD be taken in the wrong way, if not by the "younger person" then by an adult/parent who happens to see what's on his/her screen. I know it's not too likely, but it only takes one incident.
Everyone's made their feelings plain here, that it's up to the parents, and I agree, to a large extent. However, it's also up to us to be a little more responsible, and at least try to hold back on the "sexual banter" until we know people, and I still say hitting someone with that phrase (and again I KNOW it was a joke) as their first communication with a member (ooer!) here is bad judgement at the very least, and would hope that would be taken on board by all members here, and not be repeated.
One final point: remember, parents seeing their kids joining a site called "Music Banter" will not necessarily expect there to be conversation of a sexual nature going on here. They'd be wrong, of course, but it wouldn't throw up a red flag right away, so they would assume their "child" would be safe here. And really, in many ways, part of the onus is on us to ensure that's the case.
And now, if you'll excuse me, I have a ton of kiddy porn to catch up on, and my latest captive is doing my head in, banging on my wardrobe like that!
(In case anyone thinks I'm serious...)