Proposal for a minumum age limit

Urban Hat€monger ? · 06-09-2012, 05:38 AM

I can think of 3 members who were underage when they joined and they were Alfred , Storymilo & Dayvan Cowboy and they turned out to be 3 of the better members of the forum and acted a lot more mature than some other members I could mention.

Ironically when I was 13 I was doing part time work in a pub and had you told me I was too young to join here would have just laughed.

Mojo · 06-09-2012, 05:41 AM

FaSho was underage too, I think?

Urban Hat€monger ? · 06-09-2012, 05:43 AM

I think he was 14

**Janszoon** · 06-09-2012, 07:06 AM

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Originally Posted by Urban Hatemonger

Ironically when I was 13 I was doing part time work in a pub and had you told me I was too young to join here would have just laughed.

Laughed because back then you would have had no idea what an internet forum was?

Trollheart · 06-09-2012, 08:06 AM

Okay, fine: everyone laugh at me. I'm not for internet censorship, not by a long way, but I think we at least need to take the step of waiting till we at least know someone (and have an idea --- whether it's correct or not --- of their basic age) before we hit them with overtly sexual comments, that aren't even qualified by a smilie, and COULD be taken in the wrong way, if not by the "younger person" then by an adult/parent who happens to see what's on his/her screen. I know it's not too likely, but it only takes one incident.

Everyone's made their feelings plain here, that it's up to the parents, and I agree, to a large extent. However, it's also up to us to be a little more responsible, and at least try to hold back on the "sexual banter" until we know people, and I still say hitting someone with that phrase (and again I KNOW it was a joke) as their first communication with a member (ooer!) here is bad judgement at the very least, and would hope that would be taken on board by all members here, and not be repeated.

One final point: remember, parents seeing their kids joining a site called "Music Banter" will not necessarily expect there to be conversation of a sexual nature going on here. They'd be wrong, of course, but it wouldn't throw up a red flag right away, so they would assume their "child" would be safe here. And really, in many ways, part of the onus is on us to ensure that's the case.

And now, if you'll excuse me, I have a ton of kiddy porn to catch up on, and my latest captive is doing my head in, banging on my wardrobe like that!

(In case anyone thinks I'm serious...)

**Exo** · 06-09-2012, 08:17 AM

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Originally Posted by Trollheart

I'm referring specifically to the advice given by a member to a newbie about posting a picture of their genitalia to a certain member, and saying this was mandatory practice.

Trollheart · 06-09-2012, 08:23 AM

^^ What the Hell does THAT mean???

Anyway, in a move which may seem hypocritical in the extreme, I've thought about this and decided to go ahead and adopt RHCPFemaleFlea, the 13-year old whose joining kicked off this thread and started this controversy.

I believe that now that I KNOW she's underage I'll be better able to avoid any pitfalls that might have come up otherwise, and though it does sort of seem weird, I told her my age and suggested she might want someone younger and more in tune with her music, but she said she would prefer me to adopt her, so that's what I'm doing.

My reasoning? It seems unfair that she should not be considered for adoption by me due solely to my worries over her age. I'm obviously old enough to know better, and it will be up to me to set the example.

I assume I can expect visits from all your guys in prison, should it all go horribly wrong? Whaddya mean, no?

**Exo** · 06-09-2012, 08:24 AM

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Originally Posted by Trollheart

^^ What the Hell does THAT mean???

It was me who said that.

Salami · 06-09-2012, 08:51 AM

It's also equally wrong for adults to completely avoid children altogether because they are scared of being labelled "pedo". If it wasn't for talking a lot with adults on this forum, I'd not know half of what I do about music, I'd know less about people and less about the internet and how to behave. I think that the question is really less about how young people ought to be, but rather more about how we treat them.

For instance, you have no idea I'm telling the truth when I say I'm seventeen - I could very well be twelve judging from my posing history. So what should you do? Should I be banned for a couple of years? Or should we just tell Batlord to stop being so obscene?

**Scarlett O'Hara** · 06-09-2012, 08:22 PM

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Originally Posted by Urban Hatemonger

Hot blonde girls get a 50 head start.

Yessss!!!

That means I'm like Einstein.

06-09-2012, 05:38 AM	#31 (permalink)
Urban Hat€monger ? The Sexual Intellectual Join Date: Dec 2004 Location: Somewhere cooler than you Posts: 18,605	I can think of 3 members who were underage when they joined and they were Alfred , Storymilo & Dayvan Cowboy and they turned out to be 3 of the better members of the forum and acted a lot more mature than some other members I could mention. Ironically when I was 13 I was doing part time work in a pub and had you told me I was too young to join here would have just laughed. __________________ Urb's RYM Stuff Most people sell their soul to the devil, but the devil sells his soul to Nick Cave.

06-09-2012, 05:41 AM	#32 (permalink)
Mojo Melancholia Eternally Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: England Posts: 5,018	FaSho was underage too, I think? __________________ Last.FM \| Echoes and Dust

06-09-2012, 05:43 AM	#33 (permalink)
Urban Hat€monger ? The Sexual Intellectual Join Date: Dec 2004 Location: Somewhere cooler than you Posts: 18,605	I think he was 14 __________________ Urb's RYM Stuff Most people sell their soul to the devil, but the devil sells his soul to Nick Cave.

06-09-2012, 08:06 AM	#35 (permalink)
Trollheart Born to be mild Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: 404 Not Found Posts: 26,970	Okay, fine: everyone laugh at me. I'm not for internet censorship, not by a long way, but I think we at least need to take the step of waiting till we at least know someone (and have an idea --- whether it's correct or not --- of their basic age) before we hit them with overtly sexual comments, that aren't even qualified by a smilie, and COULD be taken in the wrong way, if not by the "younger person" then by an adult/parent who happens to see what's on his/her screen. I know it's not too likely, but it only takes one incident. Everyone's made their feelings plain here, that it's up to the parents, and I agree, to a large extent. However, it's also up to us to be a little more responsible, and at least try to hold back on the "sexual banter" until we know people, and I still say hitting someone with that phrase (and again I KNOW it was a joke) as their first communication with a member (ooer!) here is bad judgement at the very least, and would hope that would be taken on board by all members here, and not be repeated. One final point: remember, parents seeing their kids joining a site called "Music Banter" will not necessarily expect there to be conversation of a sexual nature going on here. They'd be wrong, of course, but it wouldn't throw up a red flag right away, so they would assume their "child" would be safe here. And really, in many ways, part of the onus is on us to ensure that's the case. And now, if you'll excuse me, I have a ton of kiddy porn to catch up on, and my latest captive is doing my head in, banging on my wardrobe like that! (In case anyone thinks I'm serious...) __________________ Trollheart: Signature-free since April 2018

06-09-2012, 08:23 AM	#37 (permalink)
Trollheart Born to be mild Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: 404 Not Found Posts: 26,970	^^ What the Hell does THAT mean??? Anyway, in a move which may seem hypocritical in the extreme, I've thought about this and decided to go ahead and adopt RHCPFemaleFlea, the 13-year old whose joining kicked off this thread and started this controversy. I believe that now that I KNOW she's underage I'll be better able to avoid any pitfalls that might have come up otherwise, and though it does sort of seem weird, I told her my age and suggested she might want someone younger and more in tune with her music, but she said she would prefer me to adopt her, so that's what I'm doing. My reasoning? It seems unfair that she should not be considered for adoption by me due solely to my worries over her age. I'm obviously old enough to know better, and it will be up to me to set the example. I assume I can expect visits from all your guys in prison, should it all go horribly wrong? Whaddya mean, no? __________________ Trollheart: Signature-free since April 2018

06-09-2012, 08:51 AM	#39 (permalink)
Salami Get in ma belly Join Date: Oct 2011 Location: Derbyshire Posts: 1,385	It's also equally wrong for adults to completely avoid children altogether because they are scared of being labelled "pedo". If it wasn't for talking a lot with adults on this forum, I'd not know half of what I do about music, I'd know less about people and less about the internet and how to behave. I think that the question is really less about how young people ought to be, but rather more about how we treat them. For instance, you have no idea I'm telling the truth when I say I'm seventeen - I could very well be twelve judging from my posing history. So what should you do? Should I be banned for a couple of years? Or should we just tell Batlord to stop being so obscene?