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Originally Posted by Xurtio
I think men also need to not call women sluts in anger or as a pejorative. Basically, we shouldn't shame sluts.
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Agreed, but I'd like it to be sort of a tongue-in-cheek thing. Nothing as boring as a straight-laced person, and a slut who's a slut because she is sexually liberated, rather than just trying to gain male attention due to low self-esteem, is probably going to be far more interesting---and fun in general---than a woman who is sexually repressed.
The thing that bothers me about "sluts" in this day and age is that many women who are called sluts probably do fit the negative stereotype. When "societal law" dictates that the only women who are sexually active to a certain degree are somehow defective, many well-adjusted women with a strong sense of self---who might otherwise be into non-self-destructive promiscuity---probably hold themselves back; which creates a self-fulfilling prophecy where the only women who do engage in promiscuity are likely those who lack self-respect, which makes willing to engage in acts that they may very well see as degrading, but simply don't have the willpower or self-awareness to see what they're doing to themselves.
In my experience, "sluts" unfortunately often do fit that stereotype. I imagine the same is even more true for porn stars. There should be nothing inherently wrong with sex work. I'm sure it can often be a fulfilling career, depending on the nature of your job and with whom/why you're engaging in it. I mean, plenty of people whore themselves out in "normal" degrading jobs---cubicle work, customer service, etc---so even legitimately degrading porn could have the same, unpleasant, though relatively benign nature as that kind of work, so long as societal stigmas change.