Originally Posted by GuitarBizarre
That's not friendzoning, that's awkward teens making up bizarre, asinine reasons why they can't have what they want, and being unable to reconcile that with reality.
It's the same mentality that makes guys think that if they're just buff enough, tall enough, "stylish" enough, they can have any girl they want. In reality, people just don't work that way - You can't please everybody, any of the time. Expecting to have a shot with every girl you talk to, just because you want to have a shot, isn't going to be a realistic expectation.
At its worst, it sets up this downward spiral, where someone not being into you is a huge, personal, judgemental attack. It's that kind of warped logic that leads to pickup artists and MRAs who seem to think that women are either illogical animals, or conniving witches, with the only acceptable women being subservient, docile, placid arm jewellery that don't form their own opinions on things.
Those people are scum, and it's a big deal to be mentally well balanced around that sort of thing.
For example, I watch anime and play videogames. For a lot of people, that's a dealbreaker for a relationship. But the fact is, I don't let those things control my life and/or turn me into a person I'm not proud of being, and if someone blindly assumes that without taking me for who I am, then that's their problem and doesn't reflect on me. I am no worse a person whatsoever for not being who that person thinks I am or should be.
At the end of the day, trying to please everyone will only make you unhappy. But you can please some people most of the time and that's doing pretty well socially in my book, at any age.
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