I am in no way a relationship guru, and I have no idea what your bf's personality is like, but for me personally im the kind of guy that wants to know if something im doing is bothering the girl im with. as blunt as possible. so if they want me to say nicer things to them (and ive had a girl ask me that before) then I want to know. big fan of open communication.
the looking at fb messages is also something that id probably not care about if someone did that to me, UNLESS I was caught doing something wrong. but im also kind of weaselly, so while it wouldn't actually bother me, if you told me that you did id probably use it as leverage in an argument because im a dick. so ya like roxy said it would probably shift from being a problem with him to a problem with you.
the way I see it there are 3 options here. first you could tell him you saw the messages and that they bother you. this will probably lead to a fight about him not complimenting you enough/you not trusting him. if you think your relationship can handle it, then do it. but it wouldn't be pleasant. second is just telling him to be more romantic or something without telling him about the messages. or you could vaguely ask if he still talks about to his exes/about what. might make you feel more guilty tho cuz its sort of disingenuous. third option is to not mention anything and if hes actually doing something wrong here, he'll mess up again and you can torch him then. but this really doesn't resolve any problems at the moment and is really just a waiting game. and likely not good for a relationship.
imo id tell him. but again youd have to be sure youre ready for the storm. and id also preface this with saying im dumb so maybe listening to me is bad haha.
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