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Originally Posted by The Batlord
I suppose no one can honestly say how they would react given certain circumstances in a relationship dynamic --at least without having experienced them -- but physical confrontations with someone you supposedly love (be it the predatory abuse of a single party, or equal participation, co-dependent violence) is a sign of a person/persons with terminally stunted maturity. Even with teens who engage in such behavior, I would be dubious that their nature would change to the point that they would "grow out of it".
I'm a man-child with anger issues myself, so I can't help but worry that under the right (or wrong) circumstances, that I would shame myself in such a way (not having been in any romantic relationships I really have little experience to say either way TBH). But I'd like to think that the idea of hitting a woman would be so repulsive to me that I just couldn't do it. I just don't understand how you get to the point of closing your fist and making contact with a loved one.
I've never done it to a non-romantic partner, and never had any desire to -- beyond of course the normal state of being pissed off at a friend acting like a douchebag -- so I'd like to think that it would never come to that, but it's still a terrifying thought. There are so few people that I've ever felt any real connection with, so it would feel like a betrayal, not just to that person, but to myself for sabotaging something which would be so rare and special to me.
**** that ****.
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Originally Posted by Trollheart
Bit late to the party aren't you? Drugs worn off yet? 
Not to mention that unless she's a huge woman (and even if she is) it's almsot certainly a case of a stronger person attacking a weaker. I know women can be tough when needed but generally, in a male/female confrontation I think they tend to avoid physical conflict, as they know they will usually come off worst. Honestly, to me it's like punching a child. How the **** can you have any self-respect for yourself, or respect for the person you purport to love, if you're prepared to physically harm them? Even if the reverse were true, and the woman went for you, most of us are strong enough to be able to restrain her without having to resort to like violence.
tl;dr: you hit a woman you're a **** and deserve to go to jail. End of. |
Well from a legal stand point, it's even more complicated than that. Legally, unless she presses charges on him, we can only hold him for 12hrs because we don't have a cooperating witness. When we arrested him, she declined to press charges (she still has little less than hour from the time of this post). So from a legal stand point, we have exercised essentially police judgement. All that is is the legal ability to interfere in a situation where we don't have someone who is actually pressing charges. Without out this sort of loophole, we wouldn't have been able to arrest him last night
because we didn't actually see the crime committed, nor did we have viable evidence that it had happened, at least, not at the house. Obviously once she got checked out by a medic it stood to say that she had two broken ribs and a neighbor saw the entire thing who called us.
As far as a stronger attacking a weaker, I'm not entirely sure this was the case, as she is the soldier in this situation, and he is a civilian. I realize that it doesn't sound like it
should make a huge difference, but it does, as she has hand-to-hand combat training that would make her formidable opponent. My best guess as he didn't have any injuries and the medic said he was basically fine, and no substantial injuries, that he surprised her over and quickly over powered her. From the investigative stand point, that's what the evidence is telling us.
Him being a civilian makes the situation that more complicated. We, as the Army, can't court martial a civilian - which is the military's legal process of trail and punishment. However, we can transfer him over to the Sheriff's Department, and maintain partial jurisdiction over the case. We can bar him from coming back onto post and limiting his access to her via that way, but we have no control over the civilian World so an order of protection against him for her would fall under the civilian court's duties. But, we all know how
that works.
EDIT: As a side note, if you've seen Plankton's picture in the picture gallery dude was about Plankton's build and such.