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Originally Posted by Black Francis
im a little ashamed to admit this but i slapped my ex once.
it was at the time our relationship was becoming a toxic one and we were having intense epic fights that were bound to end to end in physical violence and when it actually did happen and i slapped her i realised we had to break up cause it was gonna happen again.
My ex's Bf used to beat her up so me slapping her once didn't really phase her much but i remember it made me feel like a monster, it made feel like those wife beaters i hate.
In my defense though, my ex was a hysterical violence prone GF she broke 2 of my phones and threw a f*ckin rice cooker at me with rice still in it! If i haven't dodge it i could've been seriously hurt.
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Well, when she threw the rice cooker at you (I'm assuming this was a prior incident to the slapping one), why didn't you realize then and there that this situation was going nowhere and needed to be terminated (or did you and ignored it)?
The answer is the belief that the relationship will work, and that the person will change. That's why you didn't drop it when the rice cooker was flung at your head. The interesting part to me, however, is that when YOU were attacked, this didn't trigger your flight response. It was when you did the attacking that your flight response was triggered to get out of the relationship.