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Originally Posted by elphenor
that's pretty crap because it amounts to never being able to "pass" in a complete way
if they hide for a casual relationship and then it develops into something else organically, now they're stuck in a situation where their partner might freak out on them
so idk, maybe best practice would be to disclose, but I can't help but feeling that the situation would be best for all involved if it simply didn't matter
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well yeah... If it didn't matter then this wouldn't be a question. But it does matter to a lot of people so it is.
Honestly the whole they can never pass seems like it's based on the current norms where it's preferable to pass as a cis woman than just being openly trans.. which if we got to the point where it actually didn't matter I don't see why you wouldn't be open about that experience, which is very distinct from the experience of a woman who was born that way and never had to transition.i don't see how that ever stops being a district part of your identity regardless of the social norms.