Hi there. I just googled "acomophilia" and ended up here. And after reading this thread from beginning to end, it seems boo boo and I are in agreement on a good many things.
Anyway, thought I would pass on some insight from an acomophile who is a little older (Persis Khambatta got me started) and married.
If you really care about someone, it's always better to tell her about something like this. I told my wife-to-be when our relationship started to get serious. Turned out she already suspected, based on something I'd said or done. And it didn't bother her at all, because she cared about me, and knew I cared about her. It was a great exercise in trust.
At that time, she was the only person outside of an online forum who knew I liked bald women, and it felt great to be able to share that. We actually explored some of it together, so she'd better understand, and incorporated the fantasy somewhat into... you know. She even let me shave her head once, to my great delight, and this is the surprising thing. She was actually uncomfortable with just how much I liked it.
Seems odd to me, and probably to most guys, but it's apparently not that uncommon a reaction for a woman. It's that question you've already raised of how much of the attention was for her and how much was for the head. It's one thing to know you're fulfilling a lifelong fantasy, but quite another to experience the reaction, and wonder why it doesn't happen all the time. I absolutely agree that if you ever get the opportunity to fulfill your fantasy, this is where you need to tread carefully.
But as far as sharing your unusual taste in women's hairstyles, by all means, do it. It was a huge load off for me, and it's fun if you have a sense of humor. If my wife walks in and I'm watching, for example, Star Trek: The Motion Picture (innocently, I might add), she'll give me this slightly amused look like she's caught me watching something naughty. She did the same thing for Megaforce, in spite of my protests that Persis wasn't even bald in that movie. It's funny.
So, yes. Your acomophilia (I use the term more to denote an enthusiast, like an audiophile, than a sexual deviant) can be part of a healthy relationship. It's been my long-held opinion that everybody has some kind of a kink, but we don't hear about it because it's embarrassing to them, or at least deeply personal. There's a guy on a board I frequent who fantasizes about being swallowed by giant women, but it's harmless and he's otherwise perfectly normal. If you're willing to look at it with an open mind, and maybe use your imagination, his fetish is not that difficult to understand. Turns out it's not that uncommon.
A thing for bald women is tamer than a lot of fetishes enjoyed harmlessly by perfectly sane and healthy people. Best of all, you actually stand a chance of meeting a bald woman, or having one go temporarily bald for you, unlike the guy who wants a giant supermodel to swallow him and return him unharmed.
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