To Baldy1138:
Just read your new blog entry and it's very good.
There is defnitely a popular belief, even among bald women, that acomophiles are total creeps who should be avoided at all costs.
And there needs to be a distinction made between acomos who simply believe that baldness is an amplification of a woman's beauty and acomos who will fap it to anything with a bald scalp.
Or acomos who are into the forced headshaves and don't even consider baldness to be beautiful but because they are turned on by humilation, submission and punishment.
Also, an acomo for 20 years? Damn. It's only been 5 years for me, I'm only open about it on the internet, in real life I'm still very much in the closet about it and there's no reason to tell people about unless they ask. The only person who knows about it is my grandma and that's through sheer accident when she stumbled onto some of my baldy porn.
She still teases me about that sometimes.
But yeah, it's a crippling fear for me. If I were to actually meet a bald girl I probably wouldn't want to tell her about it but it would freak her out more if she found out about it and knew that I was trying to hide it which makes it seem more suspicious, if I were to just tell her I feel like I'd creep her out just the same and make her feel like I'm only interested in her baldness.
If I'm in a room full of equally attractive women and only one of them was bald then yes, she would be the one I would want to persue. But is that really different from how most guys persue the opposite sex? Persuing those whose appearance best fit their tastes? It's human nature.
It's a shame bald women can't appreciate those who actually appreciate their beauty for what it is, just because of the negative stereotypes surrounding acomos.
And I think you have a point, your distinction between fetishes and paraphilia makes good sense. Fetishes are defined as objectifcation, so all those times I've said I had a bald fetish I really was misusing the term. Then again I never say I have a bald fetish, I always say I have a bald
woman fetish. But to classify women as objects would be wrong I guess.
A bald fetish is being attracted to baldness purely as an object, as in the woman doesn't actually matter. Acomophilia however can be used to describe those who are not attracted to baldness on it's own, but to how it amplifies the beauty of an already attractive woman.
That is how it is for me and while people joking about how I get turned on by every bald person I see is good for a laugh, that's not what I'm like.