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Originally Posted by right-track
Well said. I suspected that was why you started this thread.
Your absence since has been obvious. I can only assume you've been reading with mixed feelings.
Probably laughing at some and shaking your head in despair at others. Maybe, nodding in agreement now and then too.
I'd like to see you quote some of the posts in here and address them in your own way.
I'd also like to hear some of the problems you have with homosexuals/homosexuality.
At least I'm hoping you do have certain issues and aren't going to defend particular aspects of homosexuals/homosexuality out of blind loyalty.
Look forward to your perspective and insights...
btw, I'm willing to stand corrected on any of the points I've outlined in the posts I've made, describing my problems with this subject.
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Thanks, I really appreciate this post, especially because yours are the posts I've been thinking about the most.
The problem is that I once had pretty much the same opinion you did about camp and campy g
ay people, I felt those kinds of homosexuals reflect negatively on all of us and perpetuate stereotypes.
This was years ago though, and at a time when I was just coming out and felt the need to gain acceptance and placate the hetero majority by conforming to their views of what is or isn't acceptable behavior. I think I can correlate the issue with what some people (including a lot of Croatian g
ay people, unfortunately) have with pride parades. They feel that it's contra-productive to "provoke" the heterosexual majority by "flaunting" our sexuality. Some heterosexual people like to say that they're ok with homosexuality, as long as you keep it in the bedroom. I believe this is what jackhammer wanted to say.
Obviously I don't agree with this. The main purpose of g
ay pride parades is to increase visibility, make people realize we do exists and are citizens of the same country and have a right to lead normal lives without being discriminated against despite being different. This is also why coming out is incredibly important. It's very easy to demonize what you don't know. Once you put a face and a personality on a label it's much harder to hold the same animosity you have against an "unknown enemy".
Regarding your posts, it made me wonder whether you have the same sort of negative feelings towards heterosexual people who are open about
their sexuality (I know you've said you also disapprove of heterosexual people doing the same but what I'm wondering is if you have the same
exact reaction to it). I'm gonna be honest and say that I feel you probably don't. But I'm not going to judge you too harshly because I have similar feelings of distaste when heterosexual people talk about their sexual lives. Mostly based on the fact that I don't relate and therefore get bored by it. Maybe this is what you're talking about (unless you have a problem with them talking about
gay sex, which could be inferred from the "spare me the details" bit, which would be prejudice, but only you can answer that).
So, in short, I don't think anyone should stifle their personality just so they don't piss anyone off. I think diversity is wonderful and the more people show how different they are the better. That shouldn't be a reason to discriminate against anyone. Plus, campy men are probably the most fun people I know.
Regarding my problems with homosexuality, I'm gonna have to disappoint you here. Like I said, I have had some hangups in the past, but I got rid of most of them a while ago. Now if only I can get them to listen to some good music...
