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Originally Posted by VEGANGELICA
This is perhaps the most important lesson I learned through all my relationships: I can't try to change who I feel I am in my core and remain happy. Early on I was much more plastic, wanting to mold myself to gain the person's acceptance and approval.
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*looking....*
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I finally learned to stop doing that (mostly). I really valued finding someone who accepted me as I am for the most part, not wanting to change me fundamentally. That actually became my main criterion in finding a partner...in addition to finding someone with a sense of humor.
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*searching...*
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Willingly changing certain aspects of yourself to try to help your partner feel more comfortable, especially when it isn't hard to do or if you agree that you'd like to change those things about yourself, is fine. But when a partner dislikes something you feel is core to your personality, I don't think the relationship will ever work (well).
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*GASP!* not ONE mention of hairy legs! my god!
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What you've done becomes the judge of what you're going to do -- especially in other people's minds. When you're traveling, you are what you are right there and then. People don't have your past to hold against you. No yesterdays on the road.
William Least Heat Moon, Blue Highways
Your toughest competitor lives in your head. Some days his name is fear, or pain, or gravity. Stomp his ass.
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