I have a scenario that I want to bounce off you guys for input. I'm not at a total loss for what to do, but I think challenging my judgment is a good exercise from time to time, and I can't think of a better group of people to help me do that.
Ok, so I've been talking (via Facebook) to this girl that my sister set me up with (I know, I know... but my sister is a good person with good judgment) and although we haven't even officially met, it's getting to the point where I need to ask her out somewhere to meet and talk face to face or else the momentum will fade.
She's the same age as I am (29) and really sweet, intelligent, pretty, etc.
Thing is, I know if I we start dating and we enjoy each other's actual company and personalities, etc, it's very likely to become a serious thing... and I don't know how I really feel about that. In one hand, she seems to be the kind of girl I shouldn't pass up. I don't normally come across a plethora of women who aren't total party slut cock gobblers... or women my age that aren't hitched and with a family.
And in the other hand, I'm not sure if I want a relationship right now. I haven't been in a real relationship in a good while, and I do love the freedom... and I like being able to focus strictly on school and developing my career, but somehow I think I'm just avoiding having to work at a relationship, even though I'm happier when I'm in one.
So there's this conflict of what I want, even though I know I should just go for it and see what happens. I just don't know if I'm resisting for the right reasons, or just deluding myself into creating a logical argument against the possibility of a serious relationship based on some kind of irrational fear.
Anyone have any perspectives?
(preferably those based on a little experience, but I'm not too picky.)
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