Quote:
Originally Posted by Freebase Dali
Well that's the thing... I know there's no pressure, and there are outs, and that I would like to be in a relationship with someone who isn't either a slut, nor a slut who cheats on you with a fry cook while you're in Iraq, nor a Dirty Gertrude McHelga. So in this scenario, it's very likely to be a win.
So why am I finding the idea both compelling and repulsive, for lack of a better word? I know I'm not afraid of commitment, as I was engaged to a woman who, afterward, cheated on me with a fry cook while I was in Iraq... So could it be that? Or have I just grown too fond of being free to do what I want, even though it's neither emotionally nor physically healthy in any way when it comes down to how I spend my free time?
Or am I just thinking?
I gotta say, I never thought my way into a relationship before. They all just kinda happened before I knew they were happening, over the course of being intoxicated. Maybe that's my problem. Being sober... (as an alcoholic, this is awesome news)
|
Honestly, I would find relationships repulsive if someone did something like that to me. I've been ****ing around for a good while now since I broke up with my ex. I dated that girl for 4 years. I'm also the kind of guy that likes to be in relationships, though...so I'm kind of looking around myself. At the same time, even if I really like a girl I end up imagining the relationship ending the same way my last one did and I become very apprehensive. If I'm having these kinds of concerns while my break up was relatively calm, I can't even imagine what you must be thinking.
I think the key has to be to just stop thinking so much about what something could become and just focus on what it is. Just go with it and take it day by day. My ex was the first really serious relationship I ever had, and I remember when I started dating her I just went with it. I didn't have these concerns, and I really didn't think about the future so much. I went with it and we had 3 really great years. I definitely don't regret those years. I think we have to try to start new relationships the same way as that.
Now, I'm going to do something really corny...but this is MB and music has definitely helped me with a lot of issues. One day when I was thinking about all this relationship crap, I played this and it really fit: