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Originally Posted by Nine Black Poppies
In conversations with gay men, I've been told that part of the flamboyance is... overcompensation, I guess, in being able to really express that side of one's personality--that it's something one tends to grow out of as one becomes more comfortable in the self.
I can't speak to the experience of a gay male (perhaps someone else could better), but it seems observationally true based on those that I've known.
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A friend of mine told me that was the case with him as well. I know that as a gay female, that was true of me. I was completely normal, then finally came out of the closet and wore more guy-ish clothes, no makeup...all of that. Rainbow bracelet to go with. The whole deal.
When I actually became really comfortable with it, I realized that I don't have to do that anymore. It was kind of like my way of making it okay to me. Like telling people, "I'm obviously gay. I'm SO happy and sure of myself and not afraid to be out at all..." when in all honesty, I was terrified.