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Originally Posted by tore
Again, I just linked to a study which shows that the bonus of corporal punishment is immediate conformity, but that it is not a good way to promote conformity and good behaviour in the long term. Conveniently, you don't believe in scientific studies, but if you did, that should be a valid point.
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You should be more careful as to how you word things. It sounds like you are saying I don't believe in all scientific studies, and that would be inaccurate and putting words in my mouth. These certain studies don't matter too much to me. Do they make the distinction between light spanking and beatings? Surely you can see the difference between the two, right? After all, I don't think anybody here is talking about beatings or extremely violent punishment. And is it a surprise to anybody that beating and whippings cause long-term damage? Sounds to me like you think all of the hundreds of of variables have been accounted for by scientists "because they are smart." Unless a scientist lived with a family and followed them around 24/7, this wouldn't be possible.
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They will know it in hindsight, but when they felt the hurt or acted out of frustration from getting physically punished by a parent, they didn't. The way you put it, you make it seem like they'll know the full extent of why they got punished when it's already too late to undo the immediate and potential long-term damage it caused.
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I will clarify for you and say that the child does not understand the complete, full extent of the punishment. The child understands that what they did is not to be done again, and I'd expect a child wouldn't do it again following a spanking. They might not understand why that action is bad or frowned upon. As they grow and learn the ways of the world, they will understand more. As for the immediate and long-term damage, I don't think there is much for a light spanking. I'm sure you could do some digging and find an article or study somewhere on the net that says light spanking is sooooo dangerous. But I've seen it first hand. I've experienced it. Tons of people I know have. And we have no violence issues and have nothing but respect for our parents and the way they raised us. So I'm not quite understanding the outcry or the stopping of spanking or the disgust or hate towards it when it has clearly worked for tons of people.