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View Poll Results: How do you plead?
I'm a parent 11 17.74%
I'm a child-free woman/man 24 38.71%
I want to have kids someday (please explain) 18 29.03%
I'm undecided 9 14.52%
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Old 11-21-2013, 01:21 PM   #81 (permalink)
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Honestly i've never encountered anyone snotty towards my option of not having kids. They harp about oh you'd be such a good father. And I say lucky for me I don't have to find out now do I. I always say I love kids, but I love it more when they go home at the end of the day.
My whole family does it. I know parents of friends who have said it. It's just one of those things that I will never seize to hear until I tell them "oh yeah, I want to have kids" which will be never. And although i'm only 22, I think it's safe for me to say that I don't plan on having kids. If that's a problem and if people think i'm too young to make that decision, well that's too bad. I don't see how age will effect my decision.

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What you do with your life is none of my business, and it's weak minded for me to try to tell anyone otherwise. Ki and Lady, you two are a couple of my favorite people here and it was wrong of me to attack something you're so passionate about. This will be twice in one week where I find myself apologizing, but I hope you'll accept a humble one from me.
Not a problem, Plank. I was just defending myself as I always do in heated debates.
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Old 11-21-2013, 01:44 PM   #82 (permalink)
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People will always provide self justification due to the fact that there is a lot of hate toward both sides of the spectrum on this topic (not here specifically, but in general). If we're not allow to justify our reasoning, what's the point of talking about it?
Sure ya can justify but I think its for yourselves. Its when ppl are insecure wuth their choices. Of course ppl have a hard time admitting insecurities but I think that's a part of it
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Old 11-21-2013, 01:47 PM   #83 (permalink)
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Plankton has a daughter, so he tells those that don't want kids that they're wasting their life and should have a child.

There are far more people who are negative against those who don't want kids, especially if they've had kids. 10% of the time a person who has a kid will tell you that it's ok not to have kids and you don't have to try. 90% of the time, they will tell you that you don't know what you're talking about. It is most certainly not equal.
that's in your experience.

I think you read over the part where I said it has been equal in MY experience.
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Old 11-21-2013, 01:51 PM   #84 (permalink)
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I think we could have some ****ing sexy kids!


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I will, bitch.
I like you more and more everyday. Better keep this one, Ki, or the Love Vulture will swoop down and snag her from you.
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that's in your experience.

I think you read over the part where I said it has been equal in MY experience.
It seems I have. My apologies on that one, I misread to begin with and just went off on what I assumed you said.
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I say some pretty stupid **** sometimes.

Hopefully people can look past this and maybe see that I don't really feel that way about the topic at hand. Was just in a fight with the GF this morning, and nursing a huge hangover. Cloudy judgment at best. Rage driven. I don't get angry too often, and when I do I tend to go overboard.

What you do with your life is none of my business, and it's weak minded for me to try to tell anyone otherwise. Ki and Lady, you two are a couple of my favorite people here and it was wrong of me to attack something you're so passionate about. This will be twice in one week where I find myself apologizing, but I hope you'll accept a humble one from me.

There have been quite few times where I've typed something but never got farther than that. This was one of those times where I should have never clicked the "Post" button.


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I like you more and more everyday. Better keep this one, Ki, or the Love Vulture will swoop down and snag her from you.
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I say some pretty stupid **** sometimes.

Hopefully people can look past this and maybe see that I don't really feel that way about the topic at hand. Was just in a fight with the GF this morning, and nursing a huge hangover. Cloudy judgment at best. Rage driven. I don't get angry too often, and when I do I tend to go overboard.

What you do with your life is none of my business, and it's weak minded for me to try to tell anyone otherwise. Ki and Lady, you two are a couple of my favorite people here and it was wrong of me to attack something you're so passionate about. This will be twice in one week where I find myself apologizing, but I hope you'll accept a humble one from me.

There have been quite few times where I've typed something but never got farther than that. This was one of those times where I should have never clicked the "Post" button.
We all say and do silly things. Realising it is half the battle and you seem to have that part nailed.

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This comment is not meant to be derogatory, but I've always thought of "having a child" as being right up there in the same mental-category as "committing murder".

(e.g I've sometimes considered it as an option, but realised that you would have to live with the consequences FOREVER. Once you've done it, you've done it! No going back!)

I don't think I could cope with (nor have the desire to) change my lifestyle in such a radical way. It took me 5 years before I would even commit to marriage!

I agree that there is an awful lot of 'social pressure', and (from my wife's family) that we have somehow 'failed' them, by not including THEIR aspirations in OUR decision!

I see 'not having children' as being every bit as natural as 'having children'. My wife once had a friend describe her decision as "selfish", which I thought was ironic as my wife is a teacher, and is pretty unselfish in helping to raise other people's children!

It's a simple case of "horses for courses". I can think of nothing worse than living in a world where we all wanted the same things!
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