Manners
 

Lately I've been ridiculously irritated with many people I come into contact with on a daily basis.

I don't think I've ever noticed it before in such great numbers, but most people have no manners whatsoever.

I'm talking about

• accidentally elbowing/slamming shoulders with someone and not saying "I'm sorry" or "excuse me"
• ignoring service workers like they're vermin scanning your shitty groceries
• letting doors slam in front of others who aren't that far away from you, rather than just waiting and holding it open like a decent human
• making unintelligible grunting sounds as a form of acknowledgement
• not using your ****ing goddamn blinkers
• exiting public transit without thanking the driver
• not saying "please" and "thank you" at bare minimum

and just little things that are destroying sensible, common courtesy.

How do you feel about manners?

what, like a bus? i didn't realize this was an obligation

i rarely ever see anyone say anything to the driver on the way off the bus so i figured that was normal

can i ask why this is necessary? i genuinely don't understand the importance of thanking a bus driver. if i was the bus driver i wouldn't get anything out of people saying thank you to me all day, it would just be some ritualistic formality that ultimately means nothing.

Thanking a bus driver is nice considering they do everything they can to get you where you need to be. I honestly find it inappropriate not to thank a driver. Don't wanna appreciate a driver, you can walk ten or twenty miles to get to work.

well no, it's not like they're doing me a personal favor or something. they're just doing their job and i'm paying to ride the bus, so that's a stupid ultimatum.

i'm not saying i have some sort of stance against saying thanks to them but i usually never see people do it so i honestly didn't think about it.

With that mindset, we shouldn't thank cashiers or any workers that work with the public.

it seems different because you have to interact with them, so saying thanks comes naturally.the buses i ride in florida have doors in the back and the front. so half the time you go out the back door and aren't even near the bus driver. plus the bus is full of people who are mostly not talking to each other. it's just not a very personal interaction.

It's kind to thank the driver for getting you there alive, for doing a good job. They are offering a service to you. You ought to be grateful.

i suppose it's a difference in mentality

i don't understand why people feel the need to acknowledge each other constantly. i mostly try to follow whatever conventions everyone else seems to be following when it comes to manners irl because it seems like most people have a different mindset than me.

if i was driving the bus i would honestly prefer people only talk to me if they had an actual question or something. forcing me to interact on a constant basis does nothing other than draw me out of whatever thought i was having momentarily and really does nothing for me in terms of establishing some sort of bond. that only happens for me if we have an actual meaningful discussion about something.

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actually i see that differently since the convention is that you typically do tip for service in certain industries. i don't tip out of genuine gratitude, though. i do it because i understand it's part of the deal.