After the second divorce that person needs to seriously consider whether they are unmarriable.

I wouldn't have that kind of patience either tbf.

Also factor in what ever bs the dad could be feeding the kid behind their back. Most divorced people I've known have tried to use the kid in some way to hurt the other parent. It's disgusting.

My possibly controversial take is that I don't think mentally ill, unstable or immature people should have kids.

That's never stopped you before.

I think it’s pretty reasonable to forgive yourself

Yes it has.

What's the worst that can happen?

Pls no

I don't know if anything happened after I logged off, but I don't feel like anything written by me, Lucem and OH when I was online was more than just a bit of goofing around.

Not all stepparents are bad and have rocky relationships with the bio kids. I've met a few that were pretty awesome. Though, the key word there being "few." I definitely don't think it's impossible, just somewhat uncommon or unlikely. Though then again, what the **** do I know?? I don't have kids and rarely date anymore.

I want to get back to my journal but I’m still kind of thinking about what to write this year.

Start telling funny/crazy/sexy music-related anecdotes.

Japan stories. Then a song or an album or something that connects the most with the memory.

Or just music that reminds you the most of Japan.

This. I need the lulz.

Oh my goodness. I would love to see a real mod step up and do this. Not because I think this place needs to be modded but because of all the whining that will ensue.

I was twelve when my parents got divorced. I liked the guy my mom ending marrying who is still my stepdad today and a great person, and my dad had an awesome girlfriend at one point and new wife at another who were both amazing. I also didn't have the mindset of thinking they were trying to replace my parents. I recognized my mom was extremely unhappy with my dad who was a control freak with depression issues and although he was miserable for a while, they shouldnt have been together.

No comment about your unsubstantiated opinion about the likelihood of great step parents.

I got the evil stepmother experience. Today though I still do her the courtesy of a phone call every few months whereas I haven't talked to my dad for more than a decade. He cheated on my mom, dumped her, and married my stepmom within weeks of knowing her. He would force us to call her mom while at the same time she would say "don't call me mom, it freaks me out," and being told to only refer to our birth mom as "the egg donor." Just some really good parenting decisions being made.

Did you live with him or your mom?

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I didn't see my mom between the ages of 7-18.

Lived with my dad and stepmom from 5-16.

Moved out at 16 and reconnected with my mom on myspace lol.

WTF was wrong with her?

My mom? She was young, bullied by my dad, his parents, and my stepmom, naive and without resources. There was a nasty custody battle and it's all part of a larger story which I'll write one day and sell to Lifetime.

No wonder you're both such ***gots.

Yeah, my parents are still married and both me and my sister agree that they should've divorced years ago and should've never had us as kids.

Right on elph

The sooner you embrace your white trash side the better

Btw, are sure that 16 y/o girl wasn’t you?

Isn’t you only 18 and a half next month?

Same.

:laughing::laughing:

OH is a well-oiled zing machine and for that I'm grateful.

You’re welcome

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Just looking at some of my old posts. I haven't been on this forum in a few years.

I'm sterile :)

Wut up, bitch?

Feels so good to not give a **** about the abortion debate because it will never remotely be a problem for me.

Damn I'm selfish.

Seriously though, everyone should sterilize themselves. There's enough children without homes anyways, go adopt one.

Depending on where you live, it's easier said than done. Before we had our twins, we tried going the adoption route. There's so much red tape, as well as a crazy financial cost.

That's very, very sad. I know there's some sick people out there but there are far more people who aren't.

I guess it's one of those things where you just can't take any chances. It is a child's life after all. Makes me wonder if foster care is easier to get into. Hollywood seems to show any ratchet ass person fostering kids.

We're good with no kids at all ever though.

I don't know why some people think it's "selfish" not to want children. If you don't want children, you should definitely not have them. Having kids is an extraordinary responsibility, even if it's something you really wanted and even if you have well behaved children.

I never considered adopting children and birthed my own biological children - which in a way can be considered very narcissistic and "selfish" when you think about all the un-adopted children in the world who desperately need parents.

Good on you for making the choice. Kids aren't for everyone. Not every adult is made to be a parent either.

It's definitely not selfish.

I don't think it's selfish to have bio children, or to Not have children at all. Either way is doing the right thing for yourself, and therefore to the better benefit of those around you.

I guess the main reason I point towards sterilization even for people who Do want children eventually is because of what's going on in the US right now. I had a procedure called a bilateral salpingectomy - they removed my fallopian tubes entirely, didn't just snip them - and technically if I did change my mind I could still do in vitro.

Really what I've done is just remove the possibility for an accident. I've never wanted kids at all though and finally took the plunge to make damn sure of it.

It sounds like you really thought your decision through. You even have a backup plan baked in.

Of course! And I like that, if I ever did change my mind, I would have to save up money and really think about it. It can never, ever be a split second decision based on temporary biological need for me.