Opting Out Of Parenthood

~~[MERIT]~~ · 01-18-2019, 04:23 PM

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Originally Posted by Mindfulness

Imagine a kid going on a website and seeing his dad made a thread about how he wish he never had him

If you don't want to raise your child, let a real man do it.

I sincerely hope that you're speaking hypothetically and not referring to me, the person who started this thread.

I have made it abundantly clear that I was arguing for equal rights/responsibilities for both mothers and fathers, and in no way whatsoever conveyed that I did not want my son.

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Originally Posted by Mindfulness

Step father's are so under rated and are the real heros

A good step-parent is a great thing. It's a hard role to fill and doing it correctly isn't always easy.

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Originally Posted by OccultHawk

Why else raise someone else’s kid?

Gas grass or ass - nobody rides for free

When you are in a mature relationship with another individual, you accept them for who they are, and everything that comes along with it, including any children from previous relationships. To equate this kind of loving acceptance with being a child molester who is trying to get access to a child in order to abuse that child, is simply ignorant. I'm sure this has happened in the past, sadly, but it is most definitely not the norm.

Lucem Ferre · 01-18-2019, 04:50 PM

I don't understand why you're even trying to respond to something that you know is a grossly exaggerated piece of bait.

~~MicShazam~~ · 01-18-2019, 04:51 PM

Because arguing about pointless stuff is the whole point of the internet. Are you new at this?

Lucem Ferre · 01-18-2019, 04:52 PM

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Originally Posted by MicShazam

Because arguing about pointless stuff is the whole point of the internet. Are you new at this?

You find raising children to be pointless?

SmokeAndMirrors · 01-18-2019, 05:14 PM

Despite my lack-of-wanting-to-produce-my-own-kids-and-traditionally-settle-down-in-marriage stance due to my fear of poverty as I was literally raised in a dysfunctional welfare family, if I get to know people, I don't give a **** about their kids. That kind of thing really just means nothing to me. Being a parent is a hard, full-time job of its own. If I know a person well enough and their kids are at least moderately behaved, I'll even offer to babysit their kids so they can get some time off. I've done that for some girls that are friends of mine. I won't date them, or **** them, but I will on some rare occasions offer to babysit for them if I've got the day off from work with nothing planned, and they're trying to get out of the house for a night. Because I *do* fundamentally believe that everybody deserves a break, everybody should get a chance to breathe, and take a load off, you know?? It all depends upon the legal aspects and how well I know the person. Like with this one guy I used to know, for example...I wasn't comfortable watching his daughter because him and his ex were still in pretty full-on custody wars, but I *did* drive his daughter to his ex's place several times. They had some sort of no-contact thing going on, so he couldn't legally do it himself. I liked the dude, and his ex *did* seem pretty bogus. Like, I've never met the lady before, I pulled up in his car (not my car, he wouldn't let me burn my own gas for it) and I got out and before I even introduced myself to the lady she gave me her name and informed me I was being microphone-recorded ??

...Whatever lady, here's your kid...all that **** between you two has got nothing to do with me.

But if it weren't for that sort of a situation, if he'd have asked me to watch his daughter so he could go hang out with his friends, I would have. Just like I do for the women I'm friends with on occasion. Only unlike the women I'm friends with, he probably wouldn't purpose to me repeatedly

And if he did, I'd probably tell him to go sleep his drunkass off. He's a good guy though, business-savy, and a decent folk/indie guitarist with a good voice. It was hard though, at times...driving her to her mother's house. She was only 2, and would start screaming and crying, not wanting to go, when he'd go into the room to tell her it's time. Some of the time, she knew before he even said anything to her. I felt bad for the guy...Like legit felt really bad for him. As a parent? I can't imagine...That wrecked the **** outta him.

Mindfulness · 01-18-2019, 05:30 PM

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Originally Posted by [MERIT]

I sincerely hope that you're speaking hypothetically and not referring to me, the person who started this thread.

I have made it abundantly clear that I was arguing for equal rights/responsibilities for both mothers and fathers, and in no way whatsoever conveyed that I did not want my son.

A good step-parent is a great thing. It's a hard role to fill and doing it correctly isn't always easy.

When you are in a mature relationship with another individual, you accept them for who they are, and everything that comes along with it, including any children from previous relationships. To equate this kind of loving acceptance with being a child molester who is trying to get access to a child in order to abuse that child, is simply ignorant. I'm sure this has happened in the past, sadly, but it is most definitely not the norm.

@[MERIT], i was at first but if its just the responsibilities and you say that you want your son i feel differently

i also completely agree with the step parenting thought because most hate their step parent. i hated my step mother but loved my dads second wife and shes great. my step father always been a great one, true hero

lol, i thought you just flat out didnt want your child. sorry fam

~~MicShazam~~ · 01-18-2019, 05:30 PM

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Originally Posted by OccultHawk

***

Deepest apologies.
I deserve a 6 month ban, frankly.

Lucem Ferre · 01-18-2019, 05:35 PM

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Originally Posted by MicShazam

Deepest apologies.
I deserve a 6 month ban, frankly.

No, that's for people that make personal attacks. Unless they're against [merit]. You can be as nasty as you want with him nobody cares.

~~MicShazam~~ · 01-18-2019, 05:35 PM

I've been a naughty boy spank me.

WWWP · 01-18-2019, 06:23 PM

Deleted a bunch of nonsense. Trolling, baiting, and name-calling are not allowed.

01-18-2019, 05:14 PM	#385 (permalink)
SmokeAndMirrors Music Addict Join Date: Feb 2018 Location: In the Void Posts: 174	Despite my lack-of-wanting-to-produce-my-own-kids-and-traditionally-settle-down-in-marriage stance due to my fear of poverty as I was literally raised in a dysfunctional welfare family, if I get to know people, I don't give a ** about their kids. That kind of thing really just means nothing to me. Being a parent is a hard, full-time job of its own. If I know a person well enough and their kids are at least moderately behaved, I'll even offer to babysit their kids so they can get some time off. I've done that for some girls that are friends of mine. I won't date them, or ** them, but I will on some rare occasions offer to babysit for them if I've got the day off from work with nothing planned, and they're trying to get out of the house for a night. Because I do fundamentally believe that everybody deserves a break, everybody should get a chance to breathe, and take a load off, you know?? It all depends upon the legal aspects and how well I know the person. Like with this one guy I used to know, for example...I wasn't comfortable watching his daughter because him and his ex were still in pretty full-on custody wars, but I did drive his daughter to his ex's place several times. They had some sort of no-contact thing going on, so he couldn't legally do it himself. I liked the dude, and his ex did seem pretty bogus. Like, I've never met the lady before, I pulled up in his car (not my car, he wouldn't let me burn my own gas for it) and I got out and before I even introduced myself to the lady she gave me her name and informed me I was being microphone-recorded ?? ...Whatever lady, here's your kid...all that ** between you two has got nothing to do with me. But if it weren't for that sort of a situation, if he'd have asked me to watch his daughter so he could go hang out with his friends, I would have. Just like I do for the women I'm friends with on occasion. Only unlike the women I'm friends with, he probably wouldn't purpose to me repeatedly And if he did, I'd probably tell him to go sleep his drunkass off. He's a good guy though, business-savy, and a decent folk/indie guitarist with a good voice. It was hard though, at times...driving her to her mother's house. She was only 2, and would start screaming and crying, not wanting to go, when he'd go into the room to tell her it's time. Some of the time, she knew before he even said anything to her. I felt bad for the guy...Like legit felt really bad for him. As a parent? I can't imagine...That wrecked the outta him. __________________ "Like whispers in the dark..."**

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