The Batlord

I guess some people are just bitches.

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Neapolitan

It's to avoid reading something by someone who you know is going to annoy you. It works if you are logged in, too.

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Carpe Mortem

Agreed. I know some people can't control themselves in reading something they (apparently?) don't wanna read, but you can easily take someone OFF ignore to give in, and obsessive compulsion has the last laugh.

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Zhanteimi

I put posters who say distasteful things or are unkind on my ignore list. I don't want to engage with them on any level, so ignoring them is the best option for me, lest I get myself pulled into some drama I shouldn't be involved in. It's better for everyone.

Freebase Dali

I think that's a cop-out, to be honest. The way I see it, if someone lacks the personal development necessary to be able to handle negativity in their environment and not take things personally or to some personal extreme enough to affect them, they're avoiding the real issue. There will always be negativity in any environment, and much of it is unavoidable. I think there's greater opportunity in learning how to process things you may find distasteful or hurtful rather than avoiding those things.

That's not to say one should actively seek negativity, but it's to say that while operating in an environment capable of containing such negativity, the option to remove it instead of growing your ability to deal with it is akin to putting your head in the sand. And I feel like that's kind of a disservice to a person's goal of personal development. I find more value in the people that have intellectual skin where the negativity rolls off it like water on a duck. Those are the people that know where they stand and know their own value, regardless of what others think.

Just my opinion.

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Zhanteimi

Yes. But negativity here is avoidable. Hence the ignore list.

The ignore thing is more for me, actually, because I used to engage too much, cause too much drama, and I've learned my lesson.

There's never an excuse for unkindness.

Grogsy

^^^^ I see enough negativity in the real world so I steer clear of it in forums etc.

Freebase Dali

I'm saying that I don't think avoidance is useful to learning how to deal with negativity. And, if you've learned your lesson, why avoid?

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Freebase Dali

Relevant avatar.

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Zhanteimi

Anyway, that's your opinion. Cool. Let's move on.