Does music taste affect dating?

**Janszoon** · 03-24-2015, 05:00 AM

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Originally Posted by HellCell

I think you're much older than me. Either that or you were one of the kids that thought they were too cool for Digimon.

You're tempting me to start a I like Digimon and I'm rational campaign.

I only have the the vaguest sense of what Digimon is honestly.

Black Francis · 03-24-2015, 05:27 AM

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Originally Posted by Janszoon

I only have the the vaguest sense of what Digimon is honestly.

I'll tell you what it is, it's something a grown ass man doesn't need.

They're also digital monsters who are champions

Nameless · 03-24-2015, 10:35 PM

They were like Pokemon but a lot less popular and had something to do with the internet. Like, they were in the internet or something.

But yeah music taste absolutely makes a difference in a relationship in most cases. It might be cute to have very different tastes in that early phase where everything is cute and new, but 6 months later if you're still hearing Garth Brooks or Aqua blaring you're going to snap and strangle them in their sleep or something. I guess partially it's a question of how different your tastes are.

The Batlord · 03-24-2015, 10:47 PM

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Originally Posted by Nameless

They were like Pokemon but a lot less popular and had something to do with the internet. Like, they were in the internet or something.

But yeah music taste absolutely makes a difference in a relationship in most cases. It might be cute to have very different tastes in that early phase where everything is cute and new, but 6 months later if you're still hearing Garth Brooks or Aqua blaring you're going to snap and strangle them in their sleep or something. I guess partially it's a question of how different your tastes are.

I think it would be the opposite. Never had a girlfriend, but the same applies to people in general. Having hobbies in common with someone is great. Gives you something to talk about and possibly something to do together. But in my experience, liking the same things does not mean that two people are going to have any chemistry together. I had a buddy who I bonded with over our shared love of music. He was a hip hop head, and I was a metalhead, but the level of our obsession was about equal, and we dug enough of the same stuff that we really bonded over music. After a while though, it kind of became obvious that, other than music, we really didn't have anything in common personality-wise.

And eventually life will happen, and two people will have to deal with some kind of issue together. Just because my girlfriend/buddy/whatever also likes Slayer doesn't mean I can count on that person when the **** hits the fan. They might be a selfish prick who leaves me to deal with something just because they can't be bothered, they might screw me over because of money, etc.

A person's character and compatibility with you is what decides whether or not you'll still be talking to them five years from now, and those are in no way connected with musical taste.

Nameless · 03-24-2015, 11:02 PM

I guess I'm mostly trying to say that a significant other liking music that makes your skin crawl can just be one more thing to wear you down. Music won't be enough to bring anyone together alone but it can really pile on... in my experience at least. I JUST DON'T LIKE PITBULL. Though the same person introduced me to Nick Drake and Film School many moons ago so maybe this is a selective memory thing. Pitbull's voice just annoyed me so much. Driving to the fair and there's Pitbull, hanging out doing stupid couple stuff and THERE'S PITBULL.

It's kind of like dating someone who snores really loud or tells too many stories.

Aux-In · 03-24-2015, 11:10 PM

The ex-gf was into the Deaftones, Limp Bizkit, ICP and stuff like that when we met. Yes, I did raze her about ICP at least. Later on in the relationship, she switched almost completely to country music. So, yeah, when "punk-rock girls"* go mainstream. That said, music wasn't really that much of a consideration, and it's less so as I get older; basically, not even on the radar.

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A person's character and compatibility with you is what decides whether or not you'll still be talking to them five years from now, and those are in no way connected with musical taste.

Yes, having things in common is not the best measure of compatibility. Character, similar goals, blah, blah, blah.

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*("punk-rock girls" used for emphasis, I'm aware it's a different genre than the bands I listed).

**Janszoon** · 03-25-2015, 04:21 AM

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Originally Posted by Nameless

They were like Pokemon but a lot less popular and had something to do with the internet. Like, they were in the internet or something.

I also have only a vague sense of what Pokemon is.

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Originally Posted by Nameless

But yeah music taste absolutely makes a difference in a relationship in most cases. It might be cute to have very different tastes in that early phase where everything is cute and new, but 6 months later if you're still hearing Garth Brooks or Aqua blaring you're going to snap and strangle them in their sleep or something. I guess partially it's a question of how different your tastes are.

My wife and I have completely different tastes in music and we've been together for eleven years. Trust me, in the long term music taste is insignificant in a relationship.

Black Francis · 03-25-2015, 06:03 AM

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Originally Posted by aux-in

The ex-gf was into the Deaftones, Limp Bizkit, ICP and stuff like that when we met. Yes, I did raze her about ICP at least. Later on in the relationship, she switched almost completely to country music. So, yeah, when "punk-rock girls"* go mainstream. That said, music wasn't really that much of a consideration, and it's less so as I get older; basically, not even on the radar.

My Ex introduced me to SOAD and Pentatonix and i introduced her to Elliot smith and Rufus wainwright

There were days were i just took out my guitar and we sang together the songs i knew from the artist we liked.
imo she sang 'Be quiet and Drive' better than Chino.

Honestly, having a partner with different music taste can even be a good thing. if you become real close you end up inhering their perspective without losing yours.

Ninetales · 03-25-2015, 10:25 AM

I will only date a girl if she shares my hatred for ketchup and mushrooms. it might be cute for her to eat fungi for the first while but that's no way to have a real relationship am I right bros???

Chula Vista · 03-25-2015, 10:30 AM

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Originally Posted by Janszoon

I also have only a vague sense of what Pokemon is.

I know the whole Pokemon thing real well. My son had the whole collection of cards at one point. He was obsessed and made it a point to insure that I knew all of the details of each character.

03-24-2015, 10:35 PM	#53 (permalink)
Nameless Fat girls in yoga pants Join Date: Mar 2015 Posts: 152	They were like Pokemon but a lot less popular and had something to do with the internet. Like, they were in the internet or something. But yeah music taste absolutely makes a difference in a relationship in most cases. It might be cute to have very different tastes in that early phase where everything is cute and new, but 6 months later if you're still hearing Garth Brooks or Aqua blaring you're going to snap and strangle them in their sleep or something. I guess partially it's a question of how different your tastes are.

03-24-2015, 11:02 PM	#55 (permalink)
Nameless Fat girls in yoga pants Join Date: Mar 2015 Posts: 152	I guess I'm mostly trying to say that a significant other liking music that makes your skin crawl can just be one more thing to wear you down. Music won't be enough to bring anyone together alone but it can really pile on... in my experience at least. I JUST DON'T LIKE PITBULL. Though the same person introduced me to Nick Drake and Film School many moons ago so maybe this is a selective memory thing. Pitbull's voice just annoyed me so much. Driving to the fair and there's Pitbull, hanging out doing stupid couple stuff and THERE'S PITBULL. It's kind of like dating someone who snores really loud or tells too many stories.

03-25-2015, 10:25 AM	#59 (permalink)
Ninetales Music Addict Join Date: Jun 2013 Location: livin wild Posts: 2,179	I will only date a girl if she shares my hatred for ketchup and mushrooms. it might be cute for her to eat fungi for the first while but that's no way to have a real relationship am I right bros???