sigh.

look, ignore these holier-than-thou dopes who say this is no criteria to base your relationship on. Its very much a viable platform to move from so long as you don't like ****ty indie.

She doesn't like indie, though, because you aren't hipster enough. Are you jeans tight enough? Your courier bag bright enough? Did third world mothers knit your knit cap? I don't think so. You must push yourself father, to bend her will to indie music.

As Prince would say, thats pussy control.

I'd listen to that.

In the past, I can honestly say that I have been guilty of basing someone's suitability as a potential significant other on trivial things such as musical taste. I went so far as to not date possibly one of the greatest people I've ever met because she was into musical theatre more than dramatic theatre. Not kidding. One of the biggest regrets in my life, to be quite honest.

So basically, it should be about the person, and not about the musical common ground as much. You'll find somewhere where you intersect musically. You really shouldn't be that nit-picky in a relationship; you already like them for some reason. Musical taste, a trivial detail to be honest, should not change that.

If she's baggin' the shit out of your music, perhaps she's got better taste and you should pay close attention, otherwise it's perfectly cool to dump her.

If she just ain't interested but ain't stopping you from listening to it either then you need to dry your eyes mate.

^ By the way, is that ron weasley with a guitar?

Allright, it's time to tell you something. You're not going to like me for this.
I seriously dislike theatre plays and musicals.
And to make stuff even worse, you're the very first person who participates in theatre I actually like. It's probably a dutch thing, but all the theatre people I know and have heard about here are egocentric overly dramatic attention-whores.

I'm sorry if this shocks you so I'd like to add, altough I have said that more than once, that I really like you. And I'm sure there's more people in theatre that are really likeable, but maybe just not in the Netherlands or I just ran into the wrong people. There's quite a few references though as two of my friends have studied theatre technique (as in lighting, audio, video).

Eitherway, this has an ontopic side to it; I would think twice before starting a relationship with someone who has parts in plays. So I don't think of it as a strange or stupid thing that you didn't date her because of the form of theatre she attends.
Sorry to hear that it was a mistake though... Or maybe not :)

And I stick to my point: I wouldn't want a girlfriend who can't share what is most important for me; Music. Somehow though I've so far managed to run into girls who have a great taste in music and into girls who say they don't care for music, until I play music when they're there. I somehow manage to pick the right stuff, because after they've been at my place I'm always making mixed tapes for them... Yeah :)

:rofl:

Musical taste may seem like a trivial detail to you but it's not to him. He places a higher value on it and because of that. That's the main reason I told him to dump her. So what if he likes other qualities in the girl it's not worth it if he places such a high value on music taste that way. You'd have to be in his shoes to really understand.

No, you are right, S_k a majority of the people associated with dramatic theatre/musical theatre are very unlikeable people. Sara is the first one that I have come across that is a bit different than the normal stereotype but a majority of the time people in those fields live up to the stereotype.

Egocentric overly dramatic attention whores is all they know it's their way of life and it's fraking annoying.

Allright. I sort of hoped it was a dutch thing.
But Sara rocks :).

Couldn't have said it better myself.
Besides isn't it supposed to be our differences that bring us together? If niether of you are willing to make the effort to find a common music interest (which in all honesty shouldn't be hard) then you obviously won't be willing to make efforts in any other aspect of your relationship. Obviously we don't know the details. But if loving Indie music is really that important to you, shouldn't you have noticed this right away? Like on the first date, your first question should have been "Do you like Indie ?" And if the answer was "no".. you should have IMMEDIATLY WALKED AWAY. Just some advice for the future :)

Have to agree. I also don't think you should worry about whether or not it is 'right or wrong' to dump someone over musical tastes. It's obviously important enough to you if you're even considering splitting over it. Who cares if it's right or wrong. It just is.