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Yeah this is not ok at all. A dick move that crosses boundaries even in an informal environment, and even worse professionally. She should tell him to **** off and/or get HR involved if he doesn't listen

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Originally Posted by Exo (Post 2224623)

My wife has a very hard time not letting things like this affect her. I'm a very "f*ck you" type of person but Dana is so sweet and emotional that things like this really make her upset.

He is a bully and, like most bullies, seeing advantage in the fact that Dana is a sweet person. I know it is very difficult for her, but she should not hesitate to go to HR and lodge a formal complaint. Hope she is not overly upset today - my heart goes out to her.

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Originally Posted by ribbons (Post 2224649)

she should not hesitate to go to HR and lodge a formal complaint.

Two additional thoughts:

1. She should in NO WAY feel hesitant about reporting him. We're living well past a time where the blinders to all this stuff came off. You know public opinion has shifted on controversial issues when Hollywood and big name stars take it on with a major release.

AIDS had Philadelphia, and now it's already been over 3 years since Bombshell premiered and did really well at the box office.

2. With all that being said, dude's like this guy should have long ago realized that that **** was no longer OK - not even in the slightest. So **** him for not only being misogynistic and predatory, but also being so ****ing stupid thinking it couldn't happen to him.

Like Batty already noted, this ain't the first time with someone as blatant as this guy. That article and comment alone is so far beyond UNCOOL in this day and age.

He wants to **** your wife and thinks the negging will work on her. Only one way to solve this, and it does indeed involve him getting f***ed, bureaucratically.

As management, this should be career ending. What a ****tard.

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Originally Posted by WWWP (Post 2224705)

^ This.

You could always have Dana bring her phone, put it on record, and she could have a conversation with him about it. All she'd need to do is ask him about why he showed her the article (describe the article first: "The New York post article about how I'm not relationship material"), how it made her uncomfortable, etc. etc. - based on what it sounds like, he'd probably dig himself a deeper hole and it'd all be recorded. Submit the recording to HR. The recording would probably be much different if you tried to do it, went in there, and started grilling him. He'd get defensive and deny it - call it a misunderstanding etc.

Based on what you say about Dana though, it might not be the easiest thing - you describe her as sweet, and I'm guessing that translates someway into her not being that comfortable or accustomed with confrontations. YMMV. I guess if he's making comments/convos like this frequently, maybe it would only require her making sure her phone was recording during interactions with him.

Let him bury himself. Some ****ing "friend".

Seriously, if I could have one wish it would be to incite a lil vindictiveness in her — just for a minute!

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Originally Posted by Exo (Post 2224615)

Dana is having an issue at work and I'm wondering if it falls under harassement or office bullying.

Dana has two childhood friends who are male that she goes out with frequently. Sometimes I go. Sometimes I don't. They're her childhood friends.

Some f*cking man child at work who is not her boss but a manager at the property she freelances at has been busting her chops for the past year about how he woudl never let his wife have guy friends. That guys can't be friends with women because we ALL know what THEY want. Yadda yadda small dick energy sh*t...

Dana thought it was funny at first, even got me involved on the phone once. She puts me on speaker and tells me to tell this man child what I think about her having male friends for 30 years. I said "anybody who sees a problem with that needs to grow the f*ck up."

I haven't thought about it in a while.

Yesterday Dana was upset so I pryed a little bit and she told me this f*cking c*nt came up to her and said he saw an article in the paper that made him think about her. This was the article.

https://nypost.com/2023/01/06/dating...ship-material/

1. It's the f*cking New York Post. It's the lowest of the low as far as newspapers go.

2. He basically just told my wife she's sh*t.

That is demoralizing as f*ck. That is harassment right? I'm ready to drive into the office and cave in the pricks nose. She obviously doesn't believe that sh*t but she's having anxiety that it's going around the office that Dana is galavanting around with other men. It's bothering her.

I'm livid.

Ugh. She should tell him to shut the **** up and go to HR if there is even the slightest bit of that **** in the future.
As an Eastern European I've been hearing this dumbass rhetoric all my life and I ****ing hate it. Men suck.

People like that are so bizarre. Why does he think it’s any of his business in the first place?

A manifestation of low self esteem. Maybe he has some sort of childhood trauma he's never addressed.

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Originally Posted by Janszoon (Post 2224718)

People like that are so bizarre. Why does he think it’s any of his business in the first place?

It's just a joke bro, lighten up bro.

-(c) punchable dumbasses everywhere