Oooooh, I see
It all makes sense to me now!

i don't care much for physical appearance. all i want is ONE guy who won't get tired of me. :(

you mean to tell us that physcial attraction means nothing,......

i'm shallow by no means,...but for things to work for me,....the sex has to be great,....and if i'm not attracted to someone the sex cant be great

I used to be shallow, dated a gorgeous guy, but he was a selfish lover.

Ugly dudes can be great at sex.

sexy ugly,....not ugly ugly,....

and i've had good sex with ugly dudes,....but i couldnt date an ugly guy long term,......

i'm not sayin i want to date an underware model or anything,....i'm just sayin that the statement that 'looks dont matter' is bull****

they can be taught not to be

true. looks should play a small role, however.

I don't really understand that,
Why you couldn't date a guy long term if you really liked
just 'cause he's ugly...?
That does seem kind of shallow to me

I personally don't base a whole lot on looks
'Cause I tend to find lots of ugly guys good-looking anyways

and thats fine,...if you find them good looking then they are good looking,....
human arousal greatly depends on what we find attractive,....the visuals are important long term,....cuz after you've had sex, and the newness is gone,...and you've gotten to know each other,......and you've fallen into that comfort zone,....if there's not that attraction, there's nothing that separates you from just friends,.....

and while i think 'friendship' is important in a relationship,....i've got enough friends,....i'm lookin for someone i cant keep my hands off,.....and who cant keep their hands off me,.....

and if thats shallow,....so be it