Originally Posted by ThePhanastasio
(Post 1058570)
I've had crushes on my good friends before, in addition to some of my best friends having crushes on me. Neither situation has ended badly; the worst case scenario was like a week of me being like, "Oh, shit, I'm going to act awkward around them and they can't see me acting awkward!" which led to about a week of semi-awkwardness. It wasn't devastating, just uncomfortable, and for a very brief time.
The thing is, usually if you're really close friends with someone, it's not going to come between you two. The worst that I've seen happen between close friends, like I said, is a brief period of awkwardness just because one or both of the people were concerned that things would be weird, when they really weren't; it was just psyching themselves out.
Also, as best friends, she will be concerned about your feelings, even if the feelings aren't returned. From my own personal experience, this isn't something which causes complete devastation. Like I said, again, just a little bit of awkwardness.
It basically comes down to, "Oh, they don't have the same feelings, and that blows, but I still like chilling with this person," and it was easier to get over because I was already their friend and content with that on some level.
And keep in mind, that's only if the feelings aren't returned, and it's still not complete devastation. If the feelings are returned, then KICK ASS! You've got a thing with someone with whom you actually like to talk and hang out!
Basically I guess what I'm saying is that if you really are that tight, the odds of it legitimately ending badly are probably one in a million. And the payoff if she digs you too - so worth it.
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