Advice thread

[Howard the Duck]

Originally Posted by Boozinbloozin

Fat chick...oh well thats terrible Duce im sorry to hear that

nah it wasn't too bad - i didn't enter her, flaccid from all the drinking

she jacked me off

[James]

Originally Posted by s_k

Well... Take your time.
And perhaps read this through:

http://www.musicbanter.com/games-lis...ml#post1057847

Female friend :|

[James]

Originally Posted by EvilChuck

We've all been in this situation. How likely is it she feels the same way (I'm assuming its a she, it was when it happened to me).

Not very likely tbh

Originally Posted by djchameleon

you would know your best friend better than us.

Is she the type that would date a friend, has she in the past? you have to play it by ear and pick the right time to bring it up to her if she has.

Some girls don't like to date friends because if it turns out bad they think they will lose the friendship, which is stupid imo.

Dating a friend is the best thing because if it doesn't work out you can just transition back to being friends again. I have done it three times before.

I think there was a situation like this in the past with one of her old friends and she said no but I have some information from another friend of ors that makes it seem like she sort of feels a similiar way, but it might not be too reliable.

Originally Posted by ThePhanastasio

I've had crushes on my good friends before, in addition to some of my best friends having crushes on me. Neither situation has ended badly; the worst case scenario was like a week of me being like, "Oh, shit, I'm going to act awkward around them and they can't see me acting awkward!" which led to about a week of semi-awkwardness. It wasn't devastating, just uncomfortable, and for a very brief time.

The thing is, usually if you're really close friends with someone, it's not going to come between you two. The worst that I've seen happen between close friends, like I said, is a brief period of awkwardness just because one or both of the people were concerned that things would be weird, when they really weren't; it was just psyching themselves out.

Also, as best friends, she will be concerned about your feelings, even if the feelings aren't returned. From my own personal experience, this isn't something which causes complete devastation. Like I said, again, just a little bit of awkwardness.

It basically comes down to, "Oh, they don't have the same feelings, and that blows, but I still like chilling with this person," and it was easier to get over because I was already their friend and content with that on some level.

And keep in mind, that's only if the feelings aren't returned, and it's still not complete devastation. If the feelings are returned, then KICK ASS! You've got a thing with someone with whom you actually like to talk and hang out!

Basically I guess what I'm saying is that if you really are that tight, the odds of it legitimately ending badly are probably one in a million. And the payoff if she digs you too - so worth it.

Thanks, this really helped

[s_k]

Originally Posted by James

Female friend :|

What?

[Howard the Duck]

Originally Posted by s_k

What?

i don't think he's either gay or bi

[djchameleon]

Originally Posted by Il Duce

my best fren ended up getting me smashed and half-raping me

you can't rape the willing

[James]

Originally Posted by s_k

What?

The friend I like is a girl. I'm not gay.

[s_k]

And how is that a responce to what I said?

[James]

Originally Posted by s_k

And how is that a responce to what I said?

You told me to read a thread about sexual orientation?

Anyway guys, what do you take from this kind of jokish thing like what happened today....
We both had a geography exam and when I got out she was standing outside with her friend. I walk past and she calls me back.
Her:You're just going to walk past without asking how my exam went and hugging me?
Me:Oops, sorry. How'd it go.
Her:It was okay thanks, what about you?
Me:Same, I think I did alright.
Her:Oh you have a loose thread on your jumper *reaches down and grabs it*
Me:Oh I know, I need to give it a cut
Her:You know anyone behind us is going to think I am playing with your cock
Her friend:That's probably what you want them to think, actually that's probably what you want to do
Her:Obviously, haha.
Me:*laughs* bye *leaves*

Is that flirty? Or am I looking too far into these things?

[s_k]

Originally Posted by James

You told me to read a thread about sexual orientation?

You might want to click the link mate. It's linking to a posting in which I tell how I usually tell my female friends what I feel for them.

Originally Posted by James

Is that flirty? Or am I looking too far into these things?

Well maybe I'm looking too far into these things, but if you were to ask me I'd say you're friggin' blind.
Anyway, if stuff keeps going at this rate you won't have to ask anything. Seems this is heading in the right direction anyways. Just keep in touch, make clear you're interested in her person and it should work out just fine.