i am just gonna throw this out there,....
both my mother and the guy that raised me work in a field dealing with sexual deviants
because of that i have a very strong grasp on what deviant sex actually is,....oddly enough i dont think its what most of society thinks it is

as long as everything is between to consenting adults,....everything goes you know? i feel like people worry to much about this sort of thing,....sex is fun people, explore it, enjoy it,.....you might just learn something about yourself

What are their names? Maybe I've met them.

trust me,....i hope not

Lord knows what they would think of our pal Murder Junkie.

ha,...i like ol junkie,....and i'm sure he'd be fine

Here's a question for the ladies. Lets say for sake of example the person you're with has extremely high stamina and can go on for over an hour. You finish before he finishes, but you can tell that he's getting tired, I mean over an hour of sex is truly an exhausting task even if you're in good shape. Anyways the question I pose is if he eventually stopped, long after you finished, would you consider it rude and wrong that she would refuse to help finish you off? I mean I like to consider sex as the exchange of orgasms, I give you an orgasm, you give me one. This happened to me with my last girlfriend and I'm not going to lie, it was one of the reasons for the break up.

See, the problem is that you're viewing sex wrong. The way it works is I give them an orgasm, I give them an orgasm, and then I give them an orgasm, then I stick my penis in and flop about like a fish for about 5 minutes. Try doing it that way and your relationships will be much better.

for the most part, yes, take care of each other,....
i would consider it rude not too,......
but when you say refuse what exactly do you mean? like,...she went to sleep,...or she flat out said no

if its the latter, and habitual i can see where thats a problem,.....though, honestly,...i've had moments myself where i just want to go to sleep

More times than not, sex becomes absolutely NO fun after girl comes, and having "stamina" isn't always a good thing. After about 15-20 minutes, the only thing going on in a girl's head is, "Jesus, when is he gonna finish?"

From a personal standpoint, if I orgasm first, the only thing I'm doing from that point forward is hoping he comes as soon as possible so that I don't have to keep putting on a show that I'm enjoying getting fucked when I'm already well past the enjoyment part and my body just wants a break.

However, I think that, like you said, it is pretty damn rude and selfish to not do everything you can to ensure that they guy orgasms as well.

Yeah she seriously went to sleep, it was like complete role reversal for the stereotypes of the man finishing in 5 minutes and rolling over to fall asleep. She may have been doing that to get out some frustration from a previous relationship, but I mean if you're going to be selfish like that, what does it say about how you'll act outside of the bedroom?

Well, you guys broke up so time to find a girl who likes to tumble for a while.

Haha.. you gotta tell the guy those things. Unless he has whiskey d!ck, then he obviously missed the cue that you came, and he thinks he's doing some good.

But...
Girls that come first = AWESOME. Takes so much pressure off a guy.

Interesting thread. I don't think it will be at all weird to talk about. Sex should be something we're open about. Yeah, there are definitely personal aspects of it, but why not share experiences and learn a thing or two? As for keepin' it clean, I don't know if I can do that.

How far will I go will always depend on how far my partner will go. I won't go into specifics, but I definitely love experimenting. I appreciate a woman's body just as much as I appreciate a man's body, so I feel like the possibilities are endless.

As for expectations, I try not to have none. I'm a big fan of just go with the flow, and it seems like those are the best experiences for me. As for positions, my favorite lately is lying flat on my stomach with him lying flat on top of me. Two good things that come from this: depth and I have easy access to my clitoris. Anyone got some good ones?

Now, that wasn't too graphic was it?

I was like this when I started having sex. Because of my lack of experience, I didn't really know how to enjoy sex. It took a little bit of research and plenty of experimenting with a good friend. Simply put, if you don't put work into it, you're never getting any pussy.

Here's some advice, though: if you ever want to keep a woman long enough to actually have great sex with her, don't tell her you're not a big fan of sex. Now get out there and be somebody!

You're awesome.

I have a question, general consensus:
Ladies,
Why you lick it like a lollipop?
We can't feel much of what you're doing with the tip of your tongue unless you're around the underside of the head.

I would have to say that if I stop w/o gettin' mine it usually means one of two things. Either I'm just not into it anymore (i.e. the sex is bad), or pushing myself beyond the point of exhaustion is no longer worth simply ejaculating. If i stop i'm done and I think most girls, albeit questioningly, read that as the general interpretation. I don't really have any expectations of a girl bringing me there.

I would rather a girl lick it like a lollypop then bite it like a tootsie roll pop, seeing blood come out of the side of your penis is truly a scary sight.

lol... No, I'm talking about the ineffectual licking of the shaft in all the places where it not only doesn't feel good, but doesn't feel much at all.

I had a 'dry run' once. Damn that was painful and if you gentlemen are truly great in bed then you may have experienced one :D

I don't have that problem :P.

You referring to when you've just banged several times in a row and on the last run through, your orgasm had no little guys coming out?

Feels like a charlie horse in your gooch.

Hah, so true. It happened once, probably because right after sex we decided a handjob would be a good idea. Ten minutes later....

Yeah there was no one left who fancied a swim :D

Hahaha.

Dudes, don't be a hero. Never reduce your soldiers down to zero.
You never know when you might need to fight an unexpected battle.

Haha it reminds me of my favourite Undergrads quote from Cal.

"one time air came out"

gets me everytime.

:rofl:

An hour might be long for being sober...but barbituates or some other drugs can make it a long lasting experience with godlike stamina. These are nights when I like to think of myself as a pornstar. Any men know what Im talking about?

Never experimented with them, but I found out that the anti depressant cymbalta does things very similar to that. I'm not sure why, but when I was on it I could not come, be it from sex or masturbation.

whoa, sexual experience. where the fuck is Darkest Hour?

so what hole do i put this in again?

Any hole is a goal son.

Ya, back when I was a bit younger it was all abour sex, drugs and rock n roll. Ive had quit a bit of experiences where you have to work your ass off to finish. Its always been quite rewarding for the woman on the receiving end, and also enjoyable to myself, but one can only stand being a bull every once in a while.

those nostrils look comfy.

and if none of them seem to suit you, there's no shame in making your own.

Unlike the trach.

why wait till you're broken up?

Veridical:
Thanks, and to answer your lolipop question - I think some guys like it. I don't think it's effective if you do it the WHOLE time, but it definitely adds a little variety. I like to lick it when I'm starting a blow job. It's important (to me, anyway) to lube it up well, so I'm not dryly dragging my lips on your shaft. Also, I like to use my hands, too, towards the end, and sometimes I have to do a little licking to lube it up. OK, now I feel like I'm getting too graphic.

Royg:
You don't have a problem with what? Having a great sex with a woman, or telling the public you're not a big fan of sex? I have a feeling you might be guilty of both. : P

Pobody:
Yes, I think it's pretty rude to deny you of an orgasm after you've worked that hard, but I do not see sex has an exchange of orgasms. Coming from a girl who really didn't come the first couple years of sex, I almost find more pleasure in, well, pleasuring. Don't get me wrong, there are times where I just want to get mine and roll over, but I also think sex is about experimenting, exploring human anatomy and connection.

Not enough detail.

And... kinda. I don't have a problem with having great sex with a woman (I used to - it's gotten better), but I do have a problem telling people that I'm not a big fan of sex. I mean people I see physically. It's a different story in the internet - nobody cares : P

I tell people that all the time. Its not that im not a big fan, Im just too damn lazy and dont want to perform subpar.
When I was a party animal and it came down to getting it on with a girl or getting so effed up I didnt know my name...I was anonymous.

First of all, put your **** away. :P You set yourself up for that one.

Yeah, I can imagine why you don't want to tell people around you that you're not a big fan of sex. What a hell of a rep that would be! And you're right, no one on here really cares, just curious, I suppose. I want to know why besides "it's too much work".

Guilty! :wave: (what's the other hand doing?)

Anyway... why I'm not a big fan of sex is because I prefer blowjobs, handjobs, and for my partner - going down on and fingering her. Having tried 69 yet, but I imagine I'd love that.

The reason for that is that when I first started having sex, I was so nervous I couldn't keep it hard and it would slip out or sometimes not go in at all, which was frustrating for everybody. Also, when I was in, I was usually at the bottom and I was kind of out of shape so I couldn't thrust up for long. If I was on top, I got bored (I prefer reaching up and grabbing breast than stretching and doing the same - I'm a breast man). It's not longer as big a problem as it used to be (though I always get nervous with new partners).

The compromise when I was on top was to get her legs up so that she was aiming up and it was easier access for me and the breasts were also easy to grab.

The reason why I like grabbing breasts during sex is because I have a short attention span and so if all I'm doing is thrusting I get bored and down goes the spear (sorry, I'm sure there are better phallic objects I could've used there).

And that's why "it's too much work" for me and why I'm not a big fan. Unfortunately, blowjobs and handjobs and everything else get tiring if that's all we're doing, so eventually sex is part of it all over again.

Ah, I see. Legit excuses for a beginner. ;) You can solve this though with practice, my friend. One of the first things you should do is enjoy yourself and try to relax. Foreplay is sometimes crucial to get things moving along, but if you've experienced the pleasure of in-the-moment, sudden sex, then you know foreplay isn't always necessary. If you haven't tried 69ing, I recommend it before sex. If your problem is visual stimulation, perhaps you should try having some porn on (if the girl doesn't mind). I know that sometimes I get bored with the same routine, and I like some at least playing in the background. As for tips on how to stay hard, you're better off getting advice from a guy. If your attention span is short, maybe you need to switch up positions more often. That or decorate her with shiny objects. ;)