Yeah we say Lying there like a sack of spuds. I do advocate the pillow underneath though. The angle is slightly different and this means that on top, the man can use the power of his legs more or even plant his knees apart on the bed to really concentrate the power from the groin and thighs.

Wow, likuidcoka, it sounds like you are more Iowan than I am! :) Hey! I've been to the Ames Goodwill store, right next to HyVee!! Small world, likuid! That's neat to know we have the Ames Goodwill in common.

We also are similar because we both have a child. :love: We both know the full story of where sex can lead. I still remember when I took the home pregnancy test and saw two purple lines!!!! I was so excited, I took a picture of the urine-covered test stick! Ah, memories!

No no...there's nothing wrong with your clitoris, Tumor! However you are is just fine. If you haven't done the no-hands orgasm method before, it probably *isn't* easy to figure out how to get it to work the first time (or second or third).

I remember when I first tried, nothing happened. I persevered, though. I think you really *do* need to have clothes on. Tight jeans work well. :D They cause the fabric to press gently on your clitoris when you squeeze your crossed legs. (The mid-seam of the jeans lines up nicely.) Some people put a hand towel between their legs, pulled up against their crotch, so that squeezing applies more pressure to their clitoris.

The other suggestion I have for you is to wait to try 2 weeks or so after your last period (assuming you menstruate), because then (after ovulation) you'll probably be most sensitive due to hormone changes, and my guess is probably orgasms by any method are easier for you to have then.

Here: you can read all about other women's experiences having orgasms by squeezing their legs together, as described in the Hite Report (see link below). The book is by a female researcher who interviewed women. They shared their honest, anonymous experiences to help girls and women understand and enjoy their own bodies and sexuality. That's a beautiful thing, isn't it? I hope this helps *you*!

The Hite report: a nationwide study ... - Google Books

i see. . i remember those summer nites. . thats when the weather is absolutely perfect. . thats all im gonna say

So I kind of came to terms with this last night when I was writing a research paper for my Psychology class on booty calls, but I don't associate love with sex. Maybe it's because I've never had sex with someone I cared enough about, or maybe I'm just mentally unbalanced. I figured if I could be this brutally honest with a teacher I've only known for six weeks then you guys deserve the knowledge. Is this bad?

But what do you do when your partner does seperate it from love?

^

You aren't saying you can't care about anyone, though, right? Love and sex make sense when that happens.

What I'm saying is that I fail to see how me putting my dick in your pussy is me "showing you my love". I dunno, I think the fact that I've only ever had 1 night stands and no meaningful relationships has severely skewed my vision on sex and romance.

How about the fact that you're trusting that person incase you get pregnant?
How about the things that you risk when having sex with someone?

I've had some screwed up relationships, but the way you're wording it has nothing to do with that. You just aren't thinking.
I know a lot of people don't think like that when they have sex, and a lot of people don't WANT to think about that at all.
And I also don't connect sex with love at all.
But I always make sure to think about the risks and the trust I'm putting in that person if something were to happen. If it's someone I wouldn't want to go through all of that trouble with, someone who wouldn't be there for me if all that trouble was on my shoulders, then I won't be so quick to have sex with them.
Don't get me wrong, I've had sex with people who's babies I don't want, but it really changed things when I had pregnancy scares, and when I thought about which of two people I would NOT want to have a baby with.

Of course when you put it that way...

I've had both one night stands and sex with a girl I was sure I would marry. There is a huge difference. In fact, when I roll over and go to sleep from a one night stand I feel no more satisfaction than if I had popped on some porn and busted out the lotion. Sure, it is an ego stroke, but there is really no difference.

Having sex with someone you love and knowing for sure that at that moment they wouldn't want to be doing that with anyone else and you feel the same...that is why people will always distinguish making love and ****ing. I can also see how you have the view that you have since you have never done that with someone you deeply care about, but trust me it will happen.

Or maybe I'm just a dumb romantic. Who knows.

Ive had sex with a lot of girls, but never been in love with one. I dont make that association either.