I don't know if this was towards my previous statement but it wasn't implied towards you. Sorry if you took it that way.

It was more of a general statement that I sort of let fly out of my head without thinking about it. Came out the wrong way entirely. My fault.

What is going on in here?

So...er, tits, huh?

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Well I have only kissed a guy, have never kissed girls so I don't know what it's like. But maybe guys don't repress their sexuality as much as girls do and maybe that's why they are "naughtier" right from the start.

Sounds like a fair point, obviously circumstance depending. Me and a girl I'v known a few weeks in a rather tacky club with at least six people watching is naturally going to be a less "naughty" experience than with a boy I've known for years in my bedroom in an empty house with four days of no-one else's company.

I guess circumstance, age and personality aside, there's going to be a certain difference in the degree boys and girls will express their affections and how "naughty" they will be.

Don't get me wrong, by the way, I really don't think I could possibly be in a serious relationship with a boy.

Yeah, kissing in public is vastly different than kissing in private, that's for sure. People tend to go farther in private.

I think experience has something to do with it too, like very first kisses are more innocent in nature but as people start discovering their sexuality and what they like, then of course they become more comfortable with everything. Like when I met my boyfriend I had never been kissed by anybody before (yeah, I was totally late to the game but whatever, lol). He knew that and was cool with it, so for awhile it was just kissing and not much else. Then of course we eventually moved on from there (or "moved down"? LOL)

Why not?

I find it really hard to be attracted to people. It's a rarity. For some reason I don't notice others that way. I'm 23, young I guess, but I'm no where ready to have a relationship. Guess it's a commitment thing, or intimacy issues. I don't really know where to start, and it's been bothering me lately. Most people who know are stunned, and don't understand. All of them have been in a serious relationship which I don't understand. Especially the depth or seriousness of it that comes naturally. That way It scares me sometimes. Maybe the capability is not there? Or it's a responsibility thing. I thought it might of been arrogance, but I hardly think so. I kinda envy people who are able to.

:/

Would like to hear some advice about it.

What do you mean there's no attraction? Not even sexual attraction?

If you simply mean you don't fall in love with people, don't worry about it. You probably just haven't met the right person yet. I wouldn't turn it into a bigger problem than it has to be by thinking there's something wrong with you.

Well no attraction isn't never the case entirely. I had little tickles by around 2-3 people which yes includes sexual attraction, and still was seriously underwhelming.

I'm not really going so hard as to "fall in love". But trying to look at the depth a relationship requires. I've never had that desire and it seems out of place personally.

I was ok with it before, but it's a bit of a bother because it's becoming quite deadening now.