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Originally Posted by tore (Post 1351861)

The biggest turn on for me is just basically when chicks are really horny. My ex was an animal in bed with a seemingly unsatiable appetite and a delightfully dirty mind. I would never cheat on my wife, but man how I wish she was more like my ex in that respect.

I would say be careful what you wish for. If someone really has an insatiable appetite they are just as likely to look elsewhere for satiety. I assume your ex is an ex for a reason.

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Originally Posted by tore (Post 1351861)

My wife, being less sexually demanding, is generally happy with the sex life we have and has little real motivation to change things, even if she sympathizes when I bring it up. I feel like the problem just gets bigger and bigger. What can I do? :(

On the plus side she is happy with the sex life you have. I know the frustration of a mismatch in sex drive but a satisfied partner isn't necessarily a bad thing. I guess I'm just saying to keep things in perspective. It's easy to allow something to become a bigger problem in your mind than it is in reality. When something becomes an obsessive desire it's importance tends to be overly exaggerated. I'm not saying you are obsessive in wanting a more balanced sex life but just that I guess when you say the problem gets bigger and bigger it resonates with me that it is only as big a problem as you allow it to be.

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Originally Posted by Dr. Rez (Post 1351871)

Tore have you actually sat down with her and discussed what kind of things would really excite her in bed? Maybe she just needs something really new and exciting to her to kickstart it. I dont mean to get to personal but maybe getting a book or video on different techniques, whether it be breathing/oral/massage and practicing with her and learning with her is all you need to do.

Their are tons of books on not just sex techniques but karma sutra type stuff that is more spiritual and personal with someone you care about like your wife.

I don't feel like you can learn these things from a book. Sex isn't really an intellectual pursuit. The best sex is just unbridled animal passion.

tore im gonna tell u somethin that could change your life forever man

ok so go to the store and buy some nice cologne. keep it in a hidden place if possible. before sex, put on some of that cologne

then in like a few months, when youre tryin to get freaky put on that cologne. she will associate that smell with sex. she will become a nympho as you gradually make it your every day cologne

you will thank me someday

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Originally Posted by tore (Post 1351861)

I wish me and my wife were more sexually compatible :( When we have sex, it is good - sometimes very, but it doesn't happen nearly as much as I'd like and I end up taking care of myself more often than not. Unlike me, she doesn't really fantasize much about sex and when she does, it's mostly about scenarios like two strangers meeting in an elevator. Basically, I think she fantasizes about scenarios that lead to sex more than the sex itself. My advances in the bedroom seldom gets the desired response and getting her to want sex at all is a challenge. She seldom has any ideas or special wishes that would spice things up. Thoughts that she considers naughty, most would probably think of as relatively tame. For some strange reason, I think she feels 'kinky' sex is too taboo or shameful to fantasize about.

I've tried to get her more interested in sex, but my attempts fail. F.ex I proposed to have a day each where one of us takes total control and decides what's gonna happen. I had my go at it and enjoyed it a lot, but then it was her turn. What I really wanted was of course to make her think about sex, want it, take control and spice things up for once. Of course, she forgot about the whole thing and after a while, I stopped with the reminders. It just wasn't gonna happen in a way that wasn't entirely contrived.

The biggest turn on for me is just basically when chicks are really horny. My ex was an animal in bed with a seemingly unsatiable appetite and a delightfully dirty mind. I would never cheat on my wife, but man how I wish she was more like my ex in that respect.

My wife, being less sexually demanding, is generally happy with the sexlife we have and has little real motivation to change things, even if she sympathizes when I bring it up. I feel like the problem just gets bigger and bigger. What can I do? :(

I can definitely understand where you're coming from Tore. I have a huge sexual appetite that even my boyfriend is surprised by. I had times where he wouldn't suggest sex or jump me one day and I'd be there thinking about whether I would allow a night off because I get so passionate about being intimate with someone I really care about. I had suggested to my man to tell me what fantasies he has but he shuts the conversation down.

With your situation I can see how hard it is not getting the adequate response from your wife that you would like. I recommend sitting her down and being open about your frustrations. If she says np explain that's its important to you and your marriage. Hopefully she will be open about why she doesn't feel like sex as much as you.

If I were your wife we would be doing it from night till noon. ;)

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Originally Posted by Burning Down (Post 1351862)

Hahaha, I've got my own collection. Not on the bed though.

You like Serbians? :laughing:

If they look like models and your boyfriend I do hehe. ;)

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Originally Posted by tore (Post 1351861)

What can I do? :(

My other recommendation would be don't underestimate the value of the dirty weekend. Nice dinner, luxury hotel, spa suite. Mixes it up a bit and clears some cobwebs. :thumb:

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Originally Posted by vanilla (Post 1351894)

if they look like models and your boyfriend i do hehe. ;)

:D :D :D woohoo

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Originally Posted by Vanilla (Post 1351894)

If I were your wife we would be doing it from night till noon. ;)

What nothing in the afternoon? Better lift your game girl :pimp:.

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Originally Posted by Stephen (Post 1351895)

My other recommendation would be don't underestimate the value of the dirty weekend. Nice dinner, luxury hotel, spa suite. Mixes it up a bit and clears some cobwebs. :thumb:

bro we got different opinions on what a 'dirty wknd' consists of

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Originally Posted by 216 (Post 1351910)

bro we got different opinions on what a 'dirty wknd' consists of

LOL. I don't doubt that. I just mean in a long term relationship it's nice to get out of the usual routine and surrounds and getting away to a nice hotel is a good way to focus your attention on each other instead of the daily BS.

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Originally Posted by Stephen (Post 1351911)

true true my idea has more ass to mouth and less spa time but i do agree with what you are sayin

i went to a hotel once with my ex for 2 days and it was great but we just had sex constantly and laid around in the nice bed cause we had nothin else to do which funny enough was the problem with our relationship which was he just had sex and had no other fun common ground ideas so goin to a hotel didnt really spark anything

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Originally Posted by Stephen (Post 1351878)

I don't feel like you can learn these things from a book. Sex isn't really an intellectual pursuit. The best sex is just unbridled animal passion.

I completely disagree. Sex is a skill just like anything else. Artists dont just learn from nothing they use something for reference...other artists paintings or songs...that is the same as a book or a video.