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Originally Posted by 333
(Post 809415)
I take this as you don't believe that you can be in love with someone for a longer period of time. I guess I've always looked at the contrast between in love and love in an elementary manner. I related being in love with someone as something romantic and just plain loving someone as platonic or family-related. So, then, if romantic partners transition from being in love to just loving, is there a possibility of falling out of love?
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In my experience, 333, the feeling of being "in love" with someone fades once I really know the person and the feeling of family love grows stronger. Once I know most of the person's thoughts, feelings, and experiences very well, the rush of feeling in love (of breaking down psychological barriers that make people strangers initially) diminishes. This isn't a bad thing, because it is part of being close friends.
If people never move beyond being "in love" and aren't prepared for the ho-hum feeling of long-term relationship love, then they may get disenchanted and start expecting (and looking for) the thrill of "falling in love" again. The way to inspire a little of the "in love" feeling again in a long-term relationship is to do new activities together...set up the situation so you have a chance to learn and appreciate something new about each other again.
About your feeling of love being a mystery...I don't feel it is a mystery. Take any two people, throw them together for a while, assume they are pretty decent to each other, and unless they plan to kill each other they will probably end up feeling love. Biological benefit: cohabitating humans who get along, forage together, share food, pay electricty bills, and protect their common territory have better chances of surviving to pass on the ability to "love" others to offspring.
Exactly *whom* (among all the strangers in the world) one "falls in love" with is more mysterious, I feel! I've been in quite a few relationships, but only two started with a feeling of being "in love." Looking back, I think what triggered the "in love" feeling that eventually developed was that I thought those people were especially physically attractive...I admired them *a lot* physically as well as personality-wise. Feeling "in love" with someone isn't a prerequisite for forming a loving, long-term relationship...although the feeling of "being in love" is nice to have, when it happens!
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Originally Posted by Dr.Seussicide
(Post 810154)
If it's one thing I've learned is that love, much like intelligence, simply cannot be defined. Nothing in life will ever baffle me more than the most fucked up permutation of those four letters of the English language.
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Originally Posted by Neapolitan
(Post 810162)
A four letter word has 24 permutations.
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Hmmm...now which of the 24 seems most bizarre:
love, loev, lvoe, lveo, levo, leov, olve, olev, ovle, ovel, oevl, oelv, vole, voel, vloe, vleo, velo, veol, eovl, eolv, evol, evlo, elvo, elov.
My vote for the most fu
cked-up permutation of those four letters of the English language is "
evol."