I always feel awkward holding the door open for girls, because alot of girl's snap at me and call me sexist. How is being nice/a gentleman sexist???

Well I understand that a lot of women don't want to be treated like they are handicapped.

But that's not why you do it, women don't want to be treated like they are special but what's wrong with thinking that they are? It's not treating women as inferiors, but rather as people who are worthy of respect. What's wrong with encouraging men to be polite to women? Most men are not very polite so why be offended that someone actually has some damn manners? It's such a rarity these days. :(

I know, it's not like I do something ridiculous like put my coat on the ground to cover up a puddle, I just feel like opening a door for a girl is the polite thing to do, and I don't think there's anything wrong with that.

I hold the door open if I see an old person behind me, I let them go in first. Regardless of their gender, it's just good manners.

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Are you sure all you guys are real? I swear you dont meet this many well-mannered men in the real world..

Well if they do then they are conceited and arrogant. I hold the door open for either genre, give up my seat on the bus for those who need it more and have carried shopping home for an elderly neighbour a few times. As you say it's good manners. BTW if I don't get a thankyou for holding a door open etc I usually say 'Yeah your welcome' just loud enough for them to hear it. I abhor bad manners.

What can we say, music nerds are an elite class.

Me too.

I agree, kayleigh, it is nice when people are courteous and open a door for you. I do feel uncomfortable, though, when one man at work often seems to refuse to let me open to the door for *him*. For example, if I get to the door first and open it to let him in, he kind of grabs the door and says, "After you." So then I say thank you and go in, but I feel odd about it, because it went on for months that he wouldn't go in first. I think he is just trying to be thoughtful and respectful. Recently, he actually let me hold open the door for him and he went in! Yeay! I felt relieved.

It is also nice if people offer to pick up the bill...but nicer when you can then split it or, like you say, take turns paying. No one likes to feel beholden to someone for TOO long, I think. Do they?