I like being female for social and physical reasons. Yes, here comes an essay:
The social reasons: women in the developed, Western world seem to have fewer social constraints placed on them than men do. Men seem to be encouraged to avoid certain professions, repress emotions, cut their hair short and look more alike, and accept genital mutilation of their baby boys' penises (in the U.S., at least). Oh yeah, and men are supposed to accept being drafted.
Meanwhile, I can wear pants or dresses, have my hair long or short, be a nurse or a surgeon, and be practical and logical or emotional and sensitive without any social stigma attached, and avoid fighting in immoral wars. One negative for women is the social pressure to shave their body hair, but I don't cave into that.
The physical reasons: being female makes possible a greater variety of potential life experiences, ones that men can never have: menstruation, pregnancy, childbirth, lactation, and all the emotional changes associated with them. (Actually, men can lactate, but it takes a lot of suckling!). In comparison, what do men have to look forward to physically as they age, other than getting pot bellies and going bald?
Yes, menstruation is a nuisance, but the emotional changes I experience with it are interesting...I get very moved by life. And pregnancy, which is like being the hero on the set of the movie Aliens (Go, Sigourney!!!), was one wild, wonderful trip! Plus, the process of giving birth was a meaningful challenge. Breastfeeding and the oxytocin rush and close physical bond with a child are also a beautiful experience...the most fulfilling of any I've had in life.
An added bonus: since I generally find women more sexually attractive than men, I like having breasts. It's nice to have soft, silky, comforting parts of your body right there all the time! Plus, women can have easy, no-mess orgasms.
And women DON'T have to shave any part of their body, or wear any make-up at all. I don't!
To top it all off, women have longer life spans then men. The only thing I've envied about men is that I'd like to have greater upper body strength.
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Originally Posted by boo boo
On the flipside I love wanking off, and masturbating seems it would be more fustrating if I were a broad.
Still I already do a lot of unmanly things, I always pee sitting down.  |
Why would masturbating seem more frustrating if you were a woman? I don't find it frustrating at all!
About urinating: sitting down for men works really well...it gets more urine in the toilet. Funny that people think it is unmanly. Do they think sitting down to urinate is unmanly just because they feel to be "real men" they have to be different than women when they urinate!?
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Originally Posted by mojopinuk
Women seem to put so much time into their appearance. I dont think its a bad thing to spend SOME time on your appearance as a male but women definitely seem to take it farther than i could ever be bothered with. They shave their legs, their pits, they pluck their eyebrows, they wax, they spend an absolute age doing all kinds of things with the hair on their head, they do their make up. Even the nails become something in need of up-keep.
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Not all women do this, mojo. I must admit, though, that one reason I've never felt particularly close to the typical cultural image of "woman" is that there do seem to be quite a few women who are very interested in changing their appearance, which seems a shallow and sad pursuit to me. I feel it is demeaning that people (i.e. culture) tell women that how their bodies are naturally isn't okay, and so they should do all these things to themselves to be "acceptable."
I would never change something about myself that I like just to try to attract someone...which I think is the main reason (with fear being at the root of it) that some women shave and wear make-up, etc. And if a woman or man claims that women are doing it to "make themselves look better"...well, that implies that they weren't good enough beforehand...so, again, it seems demeaning toward women.
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Originally Posted by adidasss
I despise machismo which seems inextricable with being a "proper" man (in Croatia), I don't really share their passion for sports, suppressing emotions (unless it's aggression), I don't want to be dominant etc etc. In short, mentally I feel closer to women...just don't want to be one. So, best of both worlds I'd say.
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Agreed on the whole machismo thing and the rest of what you say here. However, the kindest, gentlest people I know right now are actually men...so I know they are out there!
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Originally Posted by mr dave
we have old people telling us we should respect the differences, other generations refusing to acknowledge there even are differences, and now a youth that seems to try to eliminate the differences by taking on each others instead.
we're not asexual hermaphrodites for a reason - though i'm sure some people would prefer it that way.
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If people can take on each other's (gender) differences, then these "differences" really couldn't have been differences in the first place, could they have been? And some people *are* asexual hermaphrodites.
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Originally Posted by Tea Supremacist
You just get used to the whole having to shave all over the place
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You don't have to shave, Tea. If people say to you that women shouldn't have body hair, then you can say: "That's completely illogical: obviously, if so many women shave, then women DO have body hair."
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