The Confessional Thread

[djchameleon]

Originally Posted by Mr. Charlie

Yeah, I don't go to them either, not even when they're close friends and family. I want my memories of loved ones to be them alive and happy, not lying dead in a coffin or being lowered into the ground.

Yeah, well I didn't go to my father's funeral and my sister disowned me for it. I HAVE to go to my mother's funeral because I'm the one that did all the planning/organizing for it.

Originally Posted by Rjinn

I have problem areas as well. I don't think being skinny is attractive, especially really skinny where you feel like they can be broken in half if handled incorrectly. I don't think fat is attractive either. I'd rather be an average build. I think attractiveness is also the way you dress. I love my style. Piercings, tattoos, whacky hair, dark skin, jewellery, plain clothes. I wouldn't be able to pull it off if I were fat.

Why wouldn't you? I've seen plenty of heavy set women dressed like that. I know it's a personal preference thing but that didn't stop them from dressing that style.

[Rjinn]

Originally Posted by Mr. Charlie

It's weird how people treat the dead. We lay them out straight in expensive and beautiful boxes and hire posh cars to carry said boxes. But they're dead and so wouldn't care if they're thrown in a sack and dragged to the cemetry on the back of a tractor, or just left to rot at the side of the road. I think funerals are really for the living left behind, not the departed.

You're honoring the body of your loved ones. How is that being "left behind?"

[Mr. Charlie]

Originally Posted by djchameleon

Yeah, well I didn't go to my father's funeral and my sister disowned me for it. I HAVE to go to my mother's funeral because I'm the one that did all the planning/organizing for it.

That's rough. On both accounts.

[Mr. Charlie]

Originally Posted by Rjinn

You're honoring the body of your loved ones. How is that being "left behind?"

The living are left behind, that's what I was trying to say.

[Rjinn]

Originally Posted by Mr. Charlie

The living are left behind, that's what I was trying to say.

The living aren't even there. If anything you're dishonoring a part of the person who was living by leaving them to rot on the sidewalk or throwing them in a dumpster. A funeral is a gathering of respect, not being in a box.

Originally Posted by djchameleon

Why wouldn't you? I've seen plenty of heavy set women dressed like that. I know it's a personal preference thing but that didn't stop them from dressing that style.

Personally speaking, I wouldn't look as good according to my style.

[djchameleon]

Originally Posted by Rjinn

The living aren't even there. If anything you're dishonoring a part of the person who was living by leaving them to rot on the sidewalk or throwing them in a dumpster. A funeral is a gathering of respect, not being in a box.

A funeral is mostly for the people left behind that have a hard time coping with the person that has passed and needs help grieving so they gather for it and they say it's to pay their respects but it's really just for them not for the dead.

If you want to pay respect for the dead you can do that any time you want at their grave site/cemetery.

I just don't like the whole impromptu family reunion-ness of it. Also the type of families that only have a reunion during a funeral but every other time they don't give two shits.

[Mr. Charlie]

First let me say people can choose to honour the dead however they want, are free to do whatever it takes to help come to terms with a person's passing. But to me personally once they're dead, they're dead, and I ain't gonna pay their corpse too much mind. Buried in a posh box, or thrown in a ditch, it's all the same to me. I wanna love, honour and respect people while they're alive, not when they're dead.

[Rjinn]

Originally Posted by djchameleon

A funeral is mostly for the people left behind that have a hard time coping with the person that has passed and needs help grieving so they gather for it and they say it's to pay their respects but it's really just for them not for the dead.

It doesn't matter about how the person feels, we're talking about the symbolization of a funeral. You can go in there with a machete slice open your chest and rip your heart out cry boo, that doesn't change what it is initially representing.

If you want to pay respect for the dead you can do that any time you want at their grave site/cemetery.

So how is that different from grieving at a funeral?

I just don't like the whole impromptu family reunion-ness of it. Also the type of families that only have a reunion during a funeral but every other time they don't give two shits.

If they didn't give two ****s they wouldn't be at a funeral. They'd be on a family holiday in hawaii.

Originally Posted by Mr. Charlie

First let me say people can choose to honour the dead however they want, are free to do whatever it takes to help come to terms with a person's passing. But to me personally once they're dead, they're dead, and I ain't gonna pay their corpse too much mind. Buried in a posh box, or thrown in a ditch, it's all the same to me. I wanna love, honour and respect people while they're alive, not when they're dead.

Of course people can choose how to honor the dead, that's what a funeral gives the option of doing.

[Mr. Charlie]

Exactly, it's an option. Some choose it and some don't. It works for some but not others.

[Cheese]

The bit the annoys the shyte out of me is how at a funeral everyone says what a great person the deceased was...ffs if the person was a c*nt don't lie about it...I'd expect nothing less at mine should anyone even show