Now you'll just have to stalk her boyfriends in secret.

Ever wince seeing Gone Girl I've become kind of infatuated with the idea of marrying a straight-up sociopath. All cards would be on the table, and nobody would have any illusions about the emotional limits we'd feel toward each other. Obviously we'd have to be have to have personal chemistry, but neither of us would feel the need to pretend emotional attachment. I've never really been all that on board with the thought of that kind of intense emotional connection, but the thought of a partnership in the old school, contract sense of a marriage has its benefits. I'd have someone to lead me around and kick me in the ass to get me to do what I should be doing anyway, but never end up doing due to bummage, and she'd have someone she wouldn't have to be fake around. Win-win. Of course, there'd have to be one hell of a prenup. Like, video tapes incriminating her in my death given to multiple lawyers should the situation ever arise.

So if any non-ugly psychos be needing some luvin', just give ol' Batty a call.

Re: commitment issues, its usually the result of not actually being into the other person or not actually understanding what kind of relationship you want. Or, sometimes, not understanding that there's no such thing as that fairy tale ****.

Personally I dig my arrangement where we're best friends. Is the sex amazing and is it wonderfully romantic all the time? No, not really, but its a sexy man and a sexy woman who really get each other going strong after four years. I'll take a day of running errands with him over wine-fueled angry sex with the stripper I used to date anytime.

this is probably me.

I shouldn't have said I don't get attached to people. I do. I just can fall out of that feeling and be into another person fairly quickly.

Today I feel really depressed. I feel fat, ugly and worthless. I feel like I've lost my spark and have a whole lot of work to get back to what I was before. I feel like my self esteem has gone down to -1. What the **** happened to me? I've been 90% secure for years and years, since I turned 16. I think I've neglected myself in more ways than one. I've let things get on top of me. :(

This was hard for me to admit. But it's not because I've been called a tranny if you're wondering. That doesn't worry me because I like my make up.

Sounds like you suffer from grass is greener syndrome.

I'm relatively new here, so I don't know you very well. But even in just my short time here, I've already noticed that pretty much everyone loves, respects, and looks up to you. You're a great person, and everyone here is better for having met you. Hang in there.

I used to be a babe, now I feel fat and unattractive. It's really down to losing some ****ing weight. The problem has been my eating habits and medication. I have barely been able to afford food while studying so had to rely on cheap, rubbishy foods. I think I'll go back to making smoothies everyday and maybe do a fast to clean my system to start over. I quit smoking fine (13 days so far) so why can't I quit sugar?

I really appreciate that. It's been nagging at me these last couple of months. I stopped caring for a while and now I am realising what a big mistake that was. It's definitely possible to get back to what I was (or close to it). I love my boobs but they really make finding clothes difficult. I've missed out on amazing dresses which fit my ass, hips, stomach but not my chest.

oh ya 100%. I think I chalk it up to just being young and wanting to experience a bunch of shit before all that real responsibility garbage takes over my life haha

Play, young man, play! You'll meet someone eventually who you'd forgive if she like **** your bed or broke your favorite record or something.