Confess Your Little Quirks

s_k · 02-01-2011, 05:07 PM

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Originally Posted by Dirty

But why can't you go without hugs? What I am trying to get at is what is it about hugs that make them so great to you?

For me, it's a better way to make eachother feel you love eachother than just saying "I love you". That's why I hug my female friends who aren't my girlfriend too. I love them too. I tell them I do. But at some points it just takes a hug to get the message through.
I have friends throughout the country and there's moments where we talk to eachother on MSN Messenger and go "dammit I want to see you, I want to hug you". And these are, as I said, regular friends. Hugging for me is a part of my relationship with girls. And when I'm in an actual relation with a girl (as in boyfriend/girlfriend) the hugging definitely is a bit closer. But I can hug really closely without having sex. It jus starts out with a different intention.

Let me tell you something strange though. When my girlfriend was sad about something, we talked about it and hugged. And somehow we always ended up having sex after that. I guess that too is some sort of instinct. It feels really awkward to get turned on by a sad girl. But it somehow happened and in the end sex does make you feel an afwul lot better.
Dicks work in mysterious ways

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I've said before, I view spooning, massaging, etc as something that is a pre-sex or post-sex type of thing. Why do you want to press your dick against a girl friend's ass if you aren't gonna get laid?

Why would you want to press your **** to a girl when you are massaging or spooning? You can just hold eachother too.

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Like, what's the point. I can be a good friend to girls without cuddling with them. I actually view cuddling around with friends as more creepy and weird than anything. I don't need to massage and spoon with someone to let them know I care about them.

Neither do I. I have one or two friends I don't hug with.
It somehow just happens

. It's different for every girl I know.
You're mixing up two things though (maybe I was unclear). The spooning, massaging, caressing thing is something I do with my ex girlfriend and I have done this with some other friends too. I don't do this with everyone.

Laying together on a couch, giving eachother long hugs or stroking a girl's back is pretty normal for me though.
And there's even girls I have been closer with than I am now. I have a female friend I used to hold when we were sleeping. We don't do that now. We never had to talk about that. It just changed. I used to have webcam and phone sex with another girl. That somehow stopped. We still see eachother, I hug her whenever I see her.

These things happen and change spontaneously.
It's almost like you have 'rules' for the way you treat your girls.
I don't, it's different every time with every girl.
I'm just telling you how stuff goes here. It's not like this is my general 'idea' of friendship or relationships.