love is a feeling

last I checked, I didn't receive a bj from a black prostitute

Then you will never know true love.

I see that you address it slightly later on but it should have been in this post. I think you want to change some words around a bit. Lust and not love. You didn't even touch the surface of what love is. There are also varying degrees of love but I also see later on that you would like a definition so I will finish that underneath.

You can be in love and not want to **** the person that you are in love with. The type of love I'm talking about is platonic love. Sure, you love your mother/father but you don't want to engage in sexual relations with them unless you are from Louisiana.

There is romantic love which tends to be a bit superficial based on romantic settings it is pretty much an extended phase of puppy love.

Puppy love is the initial stage when you are completely infatuated with someone but this type of love is part love and part lust. About 75% lust 25% love because you can't really love someone fully if you don't know them that well.

This last type of love I like to call Marriage love with can also be deemed true love. This type of love is after you have known the ins and outs of the person that you are with. You will go out of your way for them and make personal sacrifices sometimes for them. You will put yourself in harms way to protect them. You are also so comfortable with the person that you are able to use the bathroom around them and not care. You are able to get into fights/arguments with them and because of your love for them not take it seriously to the point that you will NEVER talk to them again. The reason the divorce rate is so high is because some people think they have this true love when they really don't. They just have really good romantic love connection but romantic love fades and that's why they have to do things to keep the sparks alive. True love doesn't need this same type of maintenance.

I've never really liked this question. It's something that people say constantly, yet they always say it in such a way that suggests that those are the only two options - either you love and lose, or you're never going to experience love.

I call false. There are people who fall in love, stay with their first love, and remain happily married for their entire lives.

This, to me, is just a dumb saying that doesn't really mean a whole hell of a lot. If you never love at all, then you never know what you're missing anyway. So who's to say which is better, really?

I don't think it's a dumb saying it just depends on how the person feels upon answering. Mostly the people that answer never to have loved at all. They are so hurt by a previous experience and are bitter about it that they wish they never had to feel that way ever.

"love is a feeling"? of what?

there is only one kind of love.. all the other words attached to it like "romantic" "platonic"... whatever... serves to describe another feeling but that's not what love is.

ex: you can romance without love and you can love without romance. it doesn't change what love is.

my point is... love is unconditional and eternal. when love ends, that's not love at all. it's a contradiction. when there is a condition. that's not love. again that's a contradiction. the minutere there is condition, the minute there is a time frame... that's not love.

cut off my ears, take all my money, kill everyone important to me and i love you anyway. now, I will never feel that for anyone. I don't know if there is anyone capable of feeling that. maybe a parent to a child?

there have been too many times when someone has called me "idealistic" for my definition. they said we are humans so it's natural that we respect ourselves first. that is why we stop loving when we get hurt too much. but love is supposed to be the greatest of all feeling. it's supposed to be above every feeling, emotion and value.

Love is obviously the emotional equivalent of bigfoot, in that case.

What is love?

"Love is a temporary madness. It erupts like an earthquake and then subsides. And when it subsides you have to make a decision. You have to work out whether your roots have become so entwined together that it is inconceivable that you should ever part. Because this is what love is. Love is not breathlessness, it is not excitement, it is not the promulgation of promises of eternal passion. That is just being "in love" which any of us can convince ourselves we are. Love itself is what is left over when being in love has burned away, and this is both an art and a fortunate accident. Your mother and I had it, we had roots that grew towards each other underground, and when all the pretty blossoms had fallen from our branches we found that we were one tree and not two."

Most accurate definition of love I have ever read.

^

Wow, I love that description. That's pretty much the perfect way to explain love.

Of course not. I still stand by what I said, though. Everyone needs to experience it. It taught me a lot about myself.

Really depends what sort of number they do on your head before they go.

Life is nothing but love, and love is nothing but heartbreak.

People seem to forget that life inevitably works in cycles. There will be love and there will be heartbreak...there is no escaping it. What I try to remember is that that doesn't mean love leads to heartbreak. It just means that for a time you will feel love and for a time you will feel heartbreak. Love and heartbreak can be very distinct from each other. In this, you can be sure the heartbreak will end and you can love again.

Did that sound really cheesy? I'm in a weird mood.

Nope, not cheesy at all. Love is the most powerful influence in my life. And for me, it inevitably leads to heartbreak because I actually care about something, as opposed to the near constant apathy I feel for everything else. And I know I'll always part with that love, because almost nothing can last forever.

Learn to love yourselves.

Love resolved.

I learned to do that when I was 12, and I've never looked back.

This is true, but I definitely take comfort in knowing I will find love again even if it is something totally unrelated to what you are currently losing. I find I alternate between love in people and love in music. When I'm in a new relationship (a good one) I throw all my passion into it. When that fades, I find my passion in music again. I always have something.

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Now you just need to get the emotional side down.

I could see that. Unfortunately for me, I find there's a difference between what I'm passionate about and what I'm in love with. I sort of have a near constant passion for art (music and film in particular) but I can't get enough out of it to really satisfy my emotional need. I will attest to simply dropping projects and other pursuits when I fall in love with somebody, however. So maybe I am using art as something to bounce back to.

I cried the first time, does that count?

Hahahahahaha, tell me that's true.

Ah, see you described exactly how I feel. There is a very big difference between being IN love and loving. I have, in fact, been in love with someone that I ended up not loving. I think the term "in love" should actually have it's own word...using the word love in that context gets confusing.

What you seem to want is balls to the wall emotional overload. That may be a very "loving" act, but it is not love itself. That will most definitely fade...no matter what. True love is being scared enough about losing the person you are with after that spark fades that you will still do anything for them (as long as we are talking about relationships...).

Well, I suppose it's better to have loved and lost as it would make you a more understanding person in many ways. It's just losing someone you love almost makes that feel worthless sometimes.

I like this saying, it is pithy but profound, cynical but not whiny.

love is the air that feeds the ego - New Order

I may be misinterpreting this but you aren't one of those types that gets into a new relationship then neglect other ones are you? friends and family and concentrate solely on the new person in your life.

I had a friend like that but I couldn't be bothered to stay friends with her any longer. Every time she got a new bf, she wouldn't completely shut out everyone then when the new relationship starts to fall apart or she gets dump or dumps him then she wants to just waltz back into people's lives.

the other thing having a steady does for me is no more hunting around for the next prey

I hate hunting for chicks, I'm horrible at it.

i've become steadily more observant and more chick-based in my talk than previously so no problemo

then stop hunting, it'll be pretty natural when you find someone that fits what you are looking for and it won't be as difficult as hunting

Nah, that's not what I meant. I still make time for the other important people in my life.

hmm I never thought about it that way, maybe I just wasn't important enough to said friend well another good reason I dropped her like a bad habit

Yes. Having that kind of an experience is amazing.

I would say that it is better to have never loved at all. When you lose someone whom you truly love more than anything in this world, you lose a part of yourself. You can never fill that hole with anyone or anything, no matter how hard you try. I am of the mindset that everyone has 1 soulmate in this lifetime. If you lose your soulmate, you can never truly love another person after that, because nothing can even remotely compare to what you had. You will be a broken person for the rest of your life. My wife is my soulmate, but that means more to me than it does to her. I can honestly never see myself truly loving anyone else, because I will always love her more, no matter what.

I think your feelings about this may change over time, it's just that what you are going through right now is pretty fresh and raw so that's why you are feeling the way you are maybe.

No. Love is different for everyone. I believe in a soul mate, one person who you are meant to be with. If you lose that, nothing else can ever take that place.

yeah but your whole post contradicts itself a bit because you say it's better to not have loved at all but you spend the whole post talking about a soul mate.

If you believe in soul mates then people will eventually fall in love with said soul mate whether they want to or not.

I do believe in a soul mate. But that doesn't automatically mean that you will find yours, they could be on the other side of the world, or died a hundred years before you were born.

I'm saying that I would rather have never met my soul mate than to have met her, gotten married, had a child, and then have it all ripped away from me.

Not your soul mate then, is she?

can't say i've found a "soul mate" but found a "twin", mebbe

i fell in love in real when i was in Cardiff with a Welsh girl and it was quite devastating

Never loved. Love is for the weak.