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Originally Posted by duga
I feel heartbreak is something everyone should experience. It really teaches you a lot about yourself. Whether or not you think love is real, heartbreak sure as hell is. It's the result of having something that used to be constant and reliable in your life ripped away all of the sudden. That's when people get desperate and that's when you see how low you can really go.
As for me, however, I'm still feeling the repercussions of being in love once. I'm over the girl...I'm not even attracted to her in the slightest anymore. However, I am now incredibly guarded when I meet new people. I've dated around but it wasn't until just recently that I met someone with real potential. I didn't expect this, but that potential scares the **** out of me. Now I have this conflict in my head where on one side I want to be around her all the time...on the other side, I don't want to get stomped on again.
Human emotions are fragile things. We evolved them to help us survive (you love the things that help you live...thus being monogamous and being able to pump out a constant supply of offspring; you hate the things that hurt you etc etc). This came into conflict when we evolved self awareness and a higher intelligence. Those logical thoughts find a hard time interpreting the primal and irrational emotions we have. That's is why love is such a big topic for all of us. Is it real? Is it necessary? No one will ever know.
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I honestly feel sometimes that we aren't truly capable of being monogamous that's why it's such a struggle for some people. I'm fine with sharing my love with numerous partners and being polyamourus with others but society frowns on it like it's a big no no and shuns people that feel this one. I feel like I have so much love to give that for it to go all to one person is a shame but I know that not everyone sees it that when and whenever I get in a relationship my partner never sees it that way. They are more of the monogamous type and to keep them happy I push aside these feelings and try to be monogamous because I'm in love with that person so I make that sacrifice.
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Originally Posted by Dirty
Probably better to have love and lost. Love is a great thing while you're in it. Losing it makes you not take things for granted as much.
I disagree with dj and crukster though. Love doesn't always last forever. You can have it, then lose it. Even "true" love, whatever the fuck that even means.
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When I speak of Love lasting forever, I mean look at those childhood sweethearts that stay together and married for years all the way into their 80s and until one of them passes away. Their love lasts forever, what you think of has love isn't even true love. It's more like lust or just the puppy love stage when love is pretty new and you think you are madly in love with a person but you aren't.
I understand what you are saying by losing it as far as falling in and out of love with someone. That happens with tons of marriages nowadays...people fall out of love with the person they are with for whatever reason and maybe fall in love with someone new while still in the currently loveless marriage.
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