JayJamJah R.I.P.

mr dave · 12-31-2011, 04:07 PM

Condolences on your loss. I can't remember specific discussions I had with your father, but I do remember always leaving them with a new perspective on things and much food for thought. Thanks for letting us know he didn't just bored with the place. May he be in peace wherever he is (or at least listening to Hendrix and Zappa jamming it out).

jackhammer · 01-01-2012, 05:46 PM

A huge scotch raised to you at this time. Your father was awesome and I am at a time of loss too.

R.I.P

FETCHER. · 01-01-2012, 06:48 PM

God, that's awful. Deepest thoughts with the family. I always remember JayJamJah as the guy who said he was married to someone famous. Dunno why it stuck in my head. Anyways, deepest condolences with you and the rest of your family Jayson.

R.I.P.

Alfred · 01-01-2012, 08:02 PM

Rest in peace, JayJamJah. One of the kindest members I've met on this forum.

Neapolitan · 01-01-2012, 08:32 PM

Sorry to hear about JayJamJah passing, my sympathies for your loss Jayson.

FaSho · 01-01-2012, 09:06 PM

Literally the most well rounded person I've ever met on the internet.
RIP

~~someonecompletelyrandom~~ · 01-01-2012, 11:56 PM

Your father helped me in a very personal way that most forum members here don't know about. When he was running the interviews thread, I was next in line for an interview. I had a pre-interview chat with him on AOL to round out some of the basics for the one that would be printed. That conversation had a profound impact on me that I wish your fathe could have known about before he left this place.

A few forum members may recall me posting that I graduated from high school at a very early age, as I had opted for home schooling after negative experiences around people my own age. If I'm not mistaken, your father was a teacher, correct? In any case, he gave me some very valuable advice about dealing with people. Sometimes you have to accept people's faults – whether they be easy ones, things that they don't do on purpose, things that I had already learned to accept from people – or more difficult things, such as people's close mindedness or willfull ignorance. I had become so judgmental of people who just didn't "get it", people who didn't care, people who I felt were so stupid and immature and air headed, that I actually impeded my own quality of life by avoiding situations where those people might be completely. I had secluded myself because of my own pride. I wasn't learning to deal with negatively influential people in the right way, I was only avoiding them.

Whether he meant to or not, your father helped me to see that I needed to calm my judgemental mind, and accept that there will always be people who I don't like – in any situation. But that doesn't mean they're monsters, they're just people.

Now I'm friends with just about every Tom, Dick and Harry I meet. I'm incredibly easy-going since letting go of my own pretentious pre-judgements. Your father was a big part of that, and he never even knew it.

Rest in peace, my friend.

Antonio · 01-02-2012, 12:33 AM

While I never had the pleasure of knowing him more directly than just in passing threads, I've always known him as being highly active in the community and a strong part of what has made this forum shine and be one of the best ones I have ever been to.

His dedication and work has made something like going to a forum enjoyable for its community rather than just for information on whatever the forum is dedicated to.

May he rest in peace.

01-01-2012, 05:46 PM	#12 (permalink)
jackhammer Ba and Be. Join Date: May 2007 Location: This Is England Posts: 17,331	A huge scotch raised to you at this time. Your father was awesome and I am at a time of loss too. R.I.P __________________ It be my music and film collection. “A cynic by experience, a romantic by inclination and now a hero by necessity.”

01-01-2012, 08:02 PM	#14 (permalink)
Alfred one big soul Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Canada Posts: 5,096	Rest in peace, JayJamJah. One of the kindest members I've met on this forum. __________________ LAST.FM / VINYL COLLECTION / RYM

01-01-2012, 11:56 PM	#17 (permalink)
~~someonecompletelyrandom~~ Account Disabled Join Date: Nov 2008 Posts: 4,538	Your father helped me in a very personal way that most forum members here don't know about. When he was running the interviews thread, I was next in line for an interview. I had a pre-interview chat with him on AOL to round out some of the basics for the one that would be printed. That conversation had a profound impact on me that I wish your fathe could have known about before he left this place. A few forum members may recall me posting that I graduated from high school at a very early age, as I had opted for home schooling after negative experiences around people my own age. If I'm not mistaken, your father was a teacher, correct? In any case, he gave me some very valuable advice about dealing with people. Sometimes you have to accept people's faults – whether they be easy ones, things that they don't do on purpose, things that I had already learned to accept from people – or more difficult things, such as people's close mindedness or willfull ignorance. I had become so judgmental of people who just didn't "get it", people who didn't care, people who I felt were so stupid and immature and air headed, that I actually impeded my own quality of life by avoiding situations where those people might be completely. I had secluded myself because of my own pride. I wasn't learning to deal with negatively influential people in the right way, I was only avoiding them. Whether he meant to or not, your father helped me to see that I needed to calm my judgemental mind, and accept that there will always be people who I don't like – in any situation. But that doesn't mean they're monsters, they're just people. Now I'm friends with just about every Tom, Dick and Harry I meet. I'm incredibly easy-going since letting go of my own pretentious pre-judgements. Your father was a big part of that, and he never even knew it. Rest in peace, my friend.